TL:DR! when i go out with friends, my ldr boyfriend insists we don’t talk until the end of the day.
i’ve been in a ldr with my bf for half a year now and it’s been healthy. he is very sweet and considerate.
my friends have been inviting me to go out more. i typically go and i’ll send pictures/text my bf when i have time. usually one hour or so gap between texts.
recently, my boyfriend has been insisiting we don’t text until i get home bc i’m having fun with my friends. he also says he doesn’t like that our conversations are never consistent when i’m out and we can’t offer our full attention.
it makes me feel sad that he feels this way and there have been days where we only text for a few minutes bc i’m out and i can barely reply.
what should i do? idk how to feel.
2 comments
You are 19.
Y’all don’t live in the same city. That has been and will always be a great reason to end a relationship.
You can’t hang out. You can’t go on adventures. You can’t even share the same air or the small everyday shit.
You are trying to figure yourself out and gain experiences.
Being tethered to mandatory hang-outs via your electronic device of choice isn’t going to get you there.
Relationships can and should be more than texts, dms, video chats and the like.
You deserve more and better than that in this here life.
Go find it.
You’re only 19 and this LDR isn’t working out. If you’ve got to unwillingly rearrange how you run your life to accomodate his insecurity or whatever then it’s not worth it. ‘Sweet and considerate’ should be a baseline, not a perk.