So im in a long distance relationship and have been for almost 3 years now. My boyfriend and I are supposed to move in together in the next couple weeks. I turned my notice into my work which scares me, because, I am really afraid he won’t show up, then I am out a job! The reason I am scared is because I will send him a text and he will read it and then won’t respond for 12 or more hours. He has said over and over that he is coming and he told me I can go ahead and turn my notice in for work. This not replying thing is common with him it seems like, so I’m scared he won’t show and I won’t be able to find work to pay my bills. Am I being irrational? What do I do? I have brought thus up to him before and he acknowledges it but the communication still don’t change.
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Your anxiety makes sense given the uncertainty of your situation. This does seem really concerning honestly. If he knows your feelings and isn’t considering them when he’s not replying then it makes you wonder how much he respects you.
The levels of commitment you’re showing by moving in with someone you don’t know well enough to trust to be there for you is worrying. I hope he shows up and treats you well, I just hope you will get to know him well enough to trust him before making more decisions related to jobs and living in the future.
How much time have you actually spent with your boyfriend one-on-one over the 3 years? I think if you have expressed concern about something and nothing has changed then there is definitely a point of concern. I feel that way about any concern but communication is a really big one.