A friend of the opposite sex that I used to lust over years ago, hits on me on the day of my wedding. This friend knew I wanted them years ago but never wanted to pursue it. They did like keeping me hooked though. I know this friend wouldn’t be good for me long term but it’s still something that stayed in my mind after my friend made that move. I just ignored them and didn’t do anything. I wouldn’t cheat but is this something that my spouse deserves to know about or should I just keep it to myself and close friends that I talk to? Is it unfair to my spouse that this should happen on our wedding day and that it made me think about this friend, rather than being fixated on my new spouse, even though I wouldn’t stray?
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How long ago have you been married? If this old friend had told you his feelings 6 months prior to your wedding, would you have still married your husband?…
I had a similar thing happen on my wedding day, I say just keep it to yourself the last thing you want for him is to rather than think back fondly remember it for the wrong reasons.
What exactly did this friend do to hit on you? What is hitting on someone to you may just be harmless flirting. I’m trying get a sense of what we’re talking about here.
Was he actually at the wedding? If so, beyond disrespectful to have someone you have history with ar your wedding and this is the exact reason why. You should be sure he is shut down, then let your husband know you shut it down, secrets aren’t your friend when married.
They must’ve known you were moving on and didn’t want you to. That doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you. It could just be an ego thing.
I’d tell my spouse and we would both be cutting that person out of our lives. Gross. What kind of nasty person hits on someone getting married that day?
I hope you don’t associate with this friend anymore. If he’s willing to tell you something like that on your wedding day he’s willing to help you stray from your husband
You don’t have to tell your spouse every time you’re hit on. But some situations you do need to tell them. Especially if your telling others. This is one of those situations.
From the very little context.. inviting someone like this to your wedding is on you. Take responsibility and cut this person out of your life. If you dont want to do that, I’d rethink your priorities.
This ‘friend’ doesn’t sound like a very nice person
If you tell your husband, you will need to stop being friends with the friend.
He sounds like he has a significant ego and cares more about it than you, so it would be a good thing to stop being friends. However, I think that’s a decision you need to make for yourself.
I think probably the best course is to dump the friend because you have decided to and not tell your husband exactly what happened so you don’t spoil his memories of the day. Unless you’re tempted, in which case you might be safer to tell him about the approach (but not that you thought about it if you did).
That dude has to go.