I am (29F) so afraid of getting hurt again that I stopped even having conversations with the opposite sex apart from work/studies for years now. I am attractive and I draw a lot of attention but I would never reciprocate and I would stop any further approaches by ignoring them. I’m aware of how extremely unhealthy this behavior is and any advice would do at this point.
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I totally get wanting to protect yourself…. A therapist might nbe a good idea. I know it can be hard and quite unhealthy to do life like you have.
It’s really hard to let people in after having difficult times in the past. I think like every relationship or date is like a risk where we have to open ourselves up. It makes us vulnerable and that’s scary. We can retreat in ourselves in a shell or open ourselves up and take a risk and grow into the world.
Idk I’m (31M) dealing with similar issues.. was in a relationship for 7yrs been single for 2yrs now and dating so rough now I’m probably just gonna die alone
I think you should talk to someone about your hurt/ hang ups and maybe realize that not every guy is like that. However you should also look out for the signs that a guy is only interested for sex. (Asking for sex on a first meeting and being a bit toooo touchy in an inappropriate way. I think you need to do some introspection and figure out what your hurts are and how to handle them.