We’ve been together for 10 months now and only last month did I work up the nerve to ask him to kiss me.
I have been hesitant in the physical intimacy department due to the fact that the last and only time I had sex was because I felt pressured. That experience made me develop a fear of intimacy with anyone else for a number of reasons, but I want to overcome it.
I adore that he’s so patient and reassuring, always telling me it’s on my own terms and whenever I’m ready. However that also leads me to be the one to have to initiate because he won’t.
I’m definitely more comfortable if he leans in to kiss me, but I want to be able to initiate physical affection and slowly work towards sex.
What are some steps you’ve taken if you’ve been in a similar position?
TL;DR: Past trauma prevents me from being physical, need advice on how to overcome it.
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Talk to a therapist would be something you could have done along time ago.
Why don’t you tell him, you are definitely more comfortable moving forward….
What have you done to work through for trauma?