I’m 18 female.
im gonna be doing this rlly rlly rlly soon and i need some help on how to do it? Are there any tricks i could do or is it a rlly simple thing to do?…Idk
And can someone tell me how to stop being so nervous about it? The more i try to calm myself down the worse it gets 😠Should i even be worried? Help me out pls
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Honestly, don’t worry about the “proper” way to give a handjob, it’s going to differ on everyone.
Just take the time to learn your partner. I can’t imagine a partner being upset, if you tell them you want to give them a really good handjob, and for them to tell you what feels good and what doesn’t. Make a game of it, try a move, get him to rate it. Try a new move, get him to rate it. Tease him a bit. Tell him you enjoy his moans and groans. Make it light and fun.
But some general things to consider
Lubrication is nice. Can be lube, saliva, lotion, coconut oil. Pinched skin doesn’t feel good. A nice “slide” does feel good
Your boyfriend has the most nerves in the end of his penis. Don’t be afraid to give some special attention to the tip, and the frenulum (the underside of his tip
Some people are going to like more grip, some less. Some are going to like it faster, some slower. Some like a twisting motion. Others like a straight up and down
Don’t be afraid to also tap/massage/play with his testicles. Some men like this. Others don’t.
Your boyfriend has a prostate, and you can externally stimulate it. Basically if you put some gentle pressure on the space between his bum and penis, while stroking his penis, you can (in some men), add a lot of extra pleasure.
You can also touch other areas: nipples, thighs, face, neck, etc can all be really erotic while giving a handjob
Talking while giving a handjob can also be a lot of fun. Comment on how sexy he looks. Comment on enjoying it. Tease him a little bit. Sex is more than just a physical sensation. It’s also an emotion and talking can add a lot.
Once you start to feel him stiffen, moan, pulse keep doing exactly what you are. And don’t stop as soon as he cums. Generally most men you want another 5-10 seconds after he cums. He probably ejaculates just before his orgasm. If you stop right as he cums, you sorta ruin it. You’ll know if you continue to for too long because he will start to get hypersensitive and jerk and say no. But generally too much, is better than too little
As for the anxiety, just normalize sex as being a messy, new learning experience. It doesn’t need to be perfect to be fun. He doesn’t need to cum for it to be a good experience. Take the pressure off, and just enjoy a fun, emotional, connecting experience with your partner. Basically you don’t need to worry.
Look it up on Youtube, there’s all sorts of guides on there. At 18 I’m amazed you’re just talking about a handjob and not bj or something more.
HJ – do it slow. There is no prize in doing this. Relax and enjoy it, maybe fantasise.
Some good advise already stated. Make sure you have some privacy depending on where you are at. Getting caught giving or receiving a hand job can be a bit embarrassing. And have a something to wipe your hands on when you get done. The younger you are the larger the quantity of sperm you’ll get.
Ask him to guide you. My first time, he held my hand and showed me what to do, which made a huge difference