how to give hand job.

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1. In a word… lube! Use a lot. Maybe don’t over use it but my experience is women should use more than they normally would. If no lube then spit can work and I personally find that sooo erotic. Also a HJ and kissing at the same time go a long way with me.

2. IMHO I like a lot of foreplay and by that I mean a lot of lite touches, finger tips softly moving up and down all around the penis and balls and beneath the balls. Circle around the head of the penis and move lightly up and down the under side of the penile shaft , the side that would lay on his balls if he was soft. I’d say 10 minutes of that will have him on the edge of orgasm maybe even make him cum . Next, and you don’t need lube for this technique, grasp his penis in your hand so that your thumb can rub against the underside and head, you can stroke your hand up and down very slowly while very gently rubbing and circling with your thumb. Your thumb can move from his cum hole to maybe and inch or two down the underside of the shaft. That’s probably all it’s going to take to make him cum but if after 10 minutes of that he has not, then just move your thumb into a full grip, like holding a bicycle handle bar, and pull the skin up and down over the head, move faster as he asks for it or with his breath if he’s not verbal.

3. Honestly, don’t worry about the “proper” way to give a handjob, it’s going to differ on everyone.

   Just take the time to learn your partner. I can’t imagine a partner being upset, if you tell them you want to give them a really good handjob, and for them to tell you what feels good and what doesn’t. Make a game of it, try a move, get him to rate it. Try a new move, get him to rate it. Tease him a bit. Tell him you enjoy his moans and groans. Make it light and fun.

   But some general things to consider

   1. Lubrication is nice. Can be lube, saliva, lotion, coconut oil. Pinched skin doesn’t feel good. A nice “slide” does feel good
   2. Your boyfriend has the most nerves in the end of his penis. Don’t be afraid to give some special attention to the tip, and the frenulum (the underside of his tip
   3. Some people are going to like more grip, some less. Some are going to like it faster, some slower. Some like a twisting motion. Others like a straight up and down
   4. Don’t be afraid to also tap/massage/play with his testicles. Some men like this. Others don’t.
   5. Your boyfriend has a prostate, and you can externally stimulate it. Basically if you put some gentle pressure on the space between his bum and penis, while stroking his penis, you can (in some men), add a lot of extra pleasure.
   6. You can also touch other areas: nipples, thighs, face, neck, etc can all be really erotic while giving a handjob
   7. Talking while giving a handjob can also be a lot of fun. Comment on how sexy he looks. Comment on enjoying it. Tease him a little bit. Sex is more than just a physical sensation. It’s also an emotion and talking can add a lot.
   8. Once you start to feel him stiffen, moan, pulse keep doing exactly what you are. And don’t stop as soon as he cums. Generally most men you want another 5-10 seconds after he cums. He probably ejaculates just before his orgasm. If you stop right as he cums, you sorta ruin it. You’ll know if you continue to for too long because he will start to get hypersensitive and jerk and say no. But generally too much, is better than too little.

4. The moment you asked this…

   “Can guys cum when they are getting a hj from someone else?”

   …it became patently obvious that this is a fake thread. Move along, troll.

5. I don’t need lube. Alternate between slow and fast. My wife is very good at it.