I’ve only ever had one sexual partner, my now ex husband. I don’t believe in premarital sex so I won’t be having sex again until I remarry, but I want to know if my sexual experiences were normal or if the sex was bad. I have never enjoyed sex. It was so hyped up before I got married that I thought it was going to be this amazing thing, but it just took forever for him to fit in me so much that I had to anchor myself against the bed and he just wrenched himself in then pumped a couple times and was done. There was very little kissing and what I now know is foreplay. He never really did a lot of foreplay. I could never climax in penetrative sex and then it would take a long time for me when he was using a toy on me and he’d get bored. When we did have sex I didn’t feel any passion or anything really. I came to the conclusion that I must be asexual because I just wasn’t thrilled about sex and wasn’t sexually attracted. Now I’m wondering if he was just bad at sex? I’m sure I’m not that great myself. Would my sexual desire be better with a different partner?
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Yeah, that sounds like truly awful sex.
It could be better or worse. In this situation maybe you could ask someone he’s been with before?
Your premarital expectations weren’t wrong. Sex should be the best thing 2 people can do together. Sounds like your husband had no clue, sorry. Next time,make sure you stay in control and don’t let the guy do anything you don’t feel ready for. It might be useful to read some for women erotic literature to help you learn what great sex is all about.
This was bad, and you’re unlikely to have good sex unless you get comfortable with the idea of test driving the car before you buy it
You just haven’t met the right man. Sex is called making love without a reason. Sex is a connection between a couple in love.
Truly awful sex. However, this is something that can get massively better with practice, given feedback
Also, if you didn’t approve of premarital sex, how about masturbation? If you aren’t experienced at getting yourself off, it can be VERY difficult for someone else to