Using throwaway, every time I have sex with my partner it honestly feels like my penis is going to practically snap off. It’s made it so we essentially have to stay clear of any sex positions where my SO’s weight is fully on top of me. I’m roughly 1ft taller than my SO, so it could have something to do with that? That being said, I don’t think this may be necessarily the reason since I’ve encountered this problem in previous relationships where there was practically no height difference.
4 comments
A tight vagina can cause the penis to bend, try using more lube and it should help.
The height difference should not matter.
Use more lube. Or get your partner wet enough where you wouldn’t need one. Might be the cause of dryness and friction that makes you feel like it might snap off.
Another thing to consider is how hard would your SO be riding you.
some woman-on-top positions can be very uncomfortable in spite of any lube. The angle of the the vagina and the position of the pubic bone can make the initial penetration, or shallow penetration very difficult. While a the person with an erection lays on their back the penis points (roughly) up towards their head and may be easily pushed slightly past vertical towards their feet before being restrained by the suspensory ligaments anchored to the pubic bone on either side of the penis (these tendons are part of what helps hold an erect penis “up”). When seated upright on top of a partner’s hips the angle of the vagina leads from anterior to posterior (the vaginal entrance at the “front” and the cervix towards the “back” or spine. penetration laying face-to-face can generally be easily achieved, but the more upright the woman’s posture is, the further “back” the erection is pushed and the more limits are placed on movement without bending the erection inside of her.
The discomfort you are describing is not uncommon, and the care you are taking to avoid putting bad pressures on an erection is good. Stick with what FEELS good, and keep communicating with your partner during sex. If you really enjoy woman-on-top try positions which keep her pubic bone, belly and chest pressed against yours. Look up pictures together of how the vagina is angled and try to keep it in mind in relation to the position of your erection as you chose sexual positions.
Yes. An MRI study of couples having sex shows that the penis bends upward to slide along the top wall of the vagina.