what do you want your partner to do to refresh you when you are in a low mood?

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  6. nothing special sometimes a hug is all it takes

    i am pretty confident to say that most men just want a hug here and there whenever something is bugging them, atleast thats what i would love to get, just a good old plain hug.

  7. When I’m in a low mood, it helps when my partner takes the time to actively listen and offer emotional support. Sometimes just having someone there to hear me out and validate my emotions can be incredibly refreshing. A comforting hug or cuddle can also work wonders.

  8. Just be available.

    It’s something that takes preparation and experience to actually work. But when I sink into a really bad mood, I tend to start reading novels that I actually do need to keep up on for a particular client. My ex who was the best at this would ask what I was reading (even though they rotate, I almost always have the right kind of client), then sit at the other end of the couch and turn on a random movie. When I’m sitting on a couch that doesn’t recline, I take up the whole thing. So she’d intentionally be just barely in my space. And every time I moved, she’d stretch out a little more.

    Eventually, I’d complain that she was distracting me, and then she’d say “But you like that. What’s really bothering you?”

  9. Ask if I want a cup of tea. Forget to make it. I make it. I make her one. She realises she forgot. I smile. Job done!

  14. If she could fix her buying a losing powerball ticket once a week streak and buy the winner like I gently remind her to, that would help.

  19. She got her boobs out once and did a kind of funny dance routine. Definitely changed my mood, it was both sexy and funny. My own personal burlesque show.

  21. Be present. Let me know she cares and is happy to listen if I want to share how I’m feeling. Give me hugs or rub my back. Make dinner. Stuff like that

  24. Depends on the specific item at hand so it can vary but:

    A hug

    A discussion/vent session

    Sometimes some space

    Sometimes just go out somewhere; even if say hey lets get ice-cream

  25. Usually leave me alone, often what I really need is a nap, some time doing one of my “me” activities like going to the gym or sauna, that’s kinda like meditation, my first stage of coping is to mentally process everything I know about the situation, Understand it, understand everyone’s roles, whose morally right or wrong, why something bothers me, am I the asshole, whatever it is. If I have someone messing with that process by trying to distract me out of it or make me talk through it or whatever it might just make me close off to the situation… I acknowledge that there are times that this is unhealthy, I’ve caught me self or been called out for “going into myself” for days at a time. That’s fucked up and a sign I need help, that help is often non judgemental no blame conversation focussed on the situation rather than my reaction to it or through an opinionated lens…

    TLDR

    Start off my leaving me alone, maybe encourage a nap or cathartic activity if I’m bothering you

    If I’m still in a mood the next day or regularly regarding this issue then ask questions about the issue to help me vocalise my understanding of it, my role in it and how I feel about it in a non judgemental way

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