There’s a guy (call him D) [M/20’s] in our friend group who treats us like second class citizens. Like for example, if it’s an outing he doesn’t like he’ll throw a fit or just not go. We also all have this shared hobby that he refuses to participate in and if he’s there while we’re playing, he’ll just play games on his phone.
D has this friend, J, who he gushes about all the time. The past Easter he spent $2k to see J (who lives at the other end of the country) and spammed our group chat (J’s not even in our group) of pics things he and J did over the weekend (unsolicited) and in a group call basically spammed us with the details. What irked me the most was the pics and activities were stuff he refuses to do with us and that he played a *cash tournament* of that hobby I mentioned because J asked. Furthermore, he’s said some pretty shitty things about everyone in the group (we considered dropping him until he turned things around) but only says positive things about J. Before the pandemic D was spending $10,000+ to see J and basically threw away his career to go drinking with J.
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**tl;dr**: Friend treats us like second class citizens like he won’t go to outings unless they’re absolutely necessary/to his taste/enough people go and refuses to participates in hobbies. However, when another friend asks him to do these things, he’ll do them with zero complaints and spends $1000’s to see the dude. He constantly gushes about him as well.
I don’t intend on confronting him but I’m curious why he puts this other dude on a pedestal and pretty much treats us like second class citizens. I’m also curious if it’s worth it to confront.