Single guys over 35 looking for a relationship

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1. Interested in this one too, as I’m struggling

2. 38M single here, I’m not on any app.

   Come find me where I am and either give me extremely clear signs you’re interested or simply come have a chat with me and invite me to get a coffee or something.
   Otherwise, I’ll just continue doing my thing without paying attention to you.

   Good luck 🙂

3. Geez you guys. Evolve.

   OP, try Hinge. Get some female friends to help you with your bio.

4. (34M)We are asking ourselves the same question about the females.
   I’ve found that apps are not good for finding long term partners, as there’s always someone new catching their eye. And all of a sudden the communication goes quiet
   I’ve recently deleted tinder because it gets emotionally draining and disappointing, always putting yourself out there to get ghosted

5. 42/M here. No app, a chain here called Wild Wing Cafe (think Buffalo Wild Wings but way busier and live bands/trivia/etc). Met the woman I am exclusive with there, my wingman has met several there as well. We could be found there every day after work.

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7. I’d say keep doing the social things that you’re doing now and expand on what you’re doing. Try different hobbies and maybe you’ll meet some guys while doing it.

   A few suggestions for activities. I do these and there are way more men in general at both.

   Sporting events. You don’t have to be into sports to have fun at a game or two .

   Bowling. It’s fun. If you find yourself liking it I’d consider joining a league. Bowling alleys have different leagues every day of the week. Some are for serious bowlers. Some are for people who want to socialize. The league I’m on is more about having fun. I’ve been invited to BBQs, parties, poker nights etc from bowling league friends. I’d say it’s probably 90% men in my league. And then the women that are there are almost all married to someone else on the league. I don’t think there’s a single single woman. You’d have your choice of the single men on my league w no competition.

8. 45M, you can find me on Reddit. Send me a DM

9. We go out and hang with people (I do karaoke with friends, events like skating, trivia, bowling, meals at restaurants, museums, shopping, and I go to the gym and bike on trails.)

   But women have made it clear to society that they dont want to be approached anywhere, and any kind of talk or conversation that has the slightest possibility of flirting or showing interest is seen as harassment. So Ive stopped trying, women need to step up and initiate more in public.

   Online dating is a waste. For guys, it’s full of bots or catfish or women who have unrealistic expectations, wanting the gorgeous prince charming saint, considering any tiny flaw or fault that doesnt live up to their ideal expectations as a red flag and ghosting.

10. 34 gave up after being used again

11. 🙋 Here!
    Probably same place all the single, non-married, No-children ladies 26 -40 are hiding!!!!!

    -Bumble
    -OkC
    -Hinge
    -Tinder
    -Coffee Meets Bagle

    Those are what I’m on anyway.

12. Do you want children?

    I think you need to start there. That will definitely affect who would be a good match for a relationship.

    And….I do need to mention…when you say what you said above it hits men a little funny. They are EVERYWHERE. And this absolutely want to date you.

    You just can’t see them. You can’t see them because they are not attractive to you for whatever reason.

13. I stopped pursuing. Got tired of being called creepy for approaching a woman just because of what I look like on the outside. Takes a toll. Currently focusing on building a happy little life for myself and a couple of cats.

14. 40/M. No apps. I go to ballroom dance classes/socials, do some event bartending, go to mixers/events some singles groups do and spend a lot of time exploring the city. Don’t do most of it to meet women, but it does seem to be a byproduct.

15. 22 M looking a Aged or young Women for true relationship

16. 35m

    I stopped “looking” for a relationship. I focus my time on my career and myself. I personally got tired of being disappointed, and let down. I have found women will say “I want you forever” one day, and then the next day they’ll be gone.

    So, I have grown to only trust myself, I now work 70 hours a week. I exercise, and spend my time outdoors when I’m not working.

17. Not single but if I were I definitely wouldn’t be on any of those garbage apps. I’m at the gym, traveling, yoga. I wouldn’t mind doing singles events where you meet in person the ol school way. Anything but crap I mean apps.

18. Reddit? Lmao. Just saying. I’m a 35yo woman. 😘😘

19. 36m – using Bumble and OkCupid mostly right now. Coffee Meets Bagel was good for me in the past, but it’s been awful lately; lots of fake profiles and most of the people I see are in NYC (I’m on the PA/NJ border)

20. 37, No apps. Meeting new people out and about/at work. I have found the mid-late twenties age gap a bit off balance in dating. Ladies in their early 30s are usually coupled up and starting families. Some closer to my age just getting out of relationships/divorce but finding something that works out has been challenging. I prefer meeting people by chance, dating apps have ruined the magic.

21. If I’m still single at 35 I’m giving up and wandering off into the woods to never be seen again. 32 m.

22. Duuuuddee, same. 45/m single ready to mingle, but the females have all the power. I have a full time job, decent car, don’t party, I’m faithful, been told I’m good looking. But I’m always friend zoned, because Im Such a GREAT guy. Hurts, a lot. So women, help a guy out.

23. Granted I’m under 35, but childfree women seem to be non-existant. It’s already difficult enough, so I gave up a while ago.

24. Jack?

25. (36m)I almost never use dating apps

26. Personally, it feels to me like if you don’t use social media, it’s much harder to meet someone than it used to be. Plus, I’m always either too old, or too old school. I don’t use social media, I’m just now starting to get involved with it. I only started because the old school way doesn’t really work anymore. But this probably won’t work either 😂

27. The online sites are 95%.. bullshit and con artists .. I’m approaching 50 but I have more jam than most 25 year olds.. .. I’m not into the bar seen alot of girls these days are very fake and motivated by money..and material things…I’m thinking maybe church is where you might find a nice girl..I don’t know..it’s a really weird playing field out there these days

28. 37m,when I’m not at work I hit the gym and walk my dogs, all my friends are married with kids, I’m not on the apps, just focusing on myself, doing well. It’d be nice to meet someone in real life, my experience with the apps have not been the best, it’s mostly scam profiles, IG and OnlyFans girls, most dates there wasn’t a spark and ghosters, the usual, meh.

29. We are here on all the app’s and we make the $

30. Same here 37 and counting, cant find a single one, i dont even see them anywhere

    Single, Please connect with me 🙂

31. 38 years old here, I do a ton of walking. Whatever waking trails j can find, nature centers, however you want to label it. We like to either keep fit or say “fuck it I’m old, I’m getting fat”. Sometimes I hang out in Barnes and noble, grab a coffee and read a book. However, some guys over 35 (in particular 35-40) are still partying their balls off and acting 20. I don’t have any kids, but some of my friends my age have either newborns or teenagers. We’re a mixed bag so it’s hard to nail is down to any particular set of traits. However I can give you ONE simple tactic that will help you land any of us: after a life time of having to make the first move, we GREATLY appreciate it if you do. We also greatly appreciate direct communication, don’t make us play games, don’t make us try to “read your mind”. Just straight up say who you are, what you want, and have a healthy balance between time spent with us and having your own life. Guys are pretty easy to please unless they suck as people (fuck boys I suppose would be the “proper term” these days).

32. Met my wife at 28 after having a kid and going through a divorce because I caught her cheating. I heard about a bar (I drink maybe 1 beer every other week) that is also a board game lounge. I showed up to an event and just watched the first hour since I was alone. She invited me to be on her team because a friend left and they needed a 4th player to finish by their game.

33. Get a hobby that will make you meet new people

34. I’m 37 and use Bumble…we’re out there but probably get overlooked by 95% of the women on there