I (24M) tried to help a former friend’s (31M) girlfriend (30F) leave their abusive relationship, but he caught me and I called the cops on him to help mediate her pack her things. I want to know if there’s anything I can do to help.

This happened about an hour ago, and I need advice desperately. This is the first time I’ve been in a situation like this and I don’t know what I should do at this point.

TL;DR: I recently made a (now former) friend (Kevin), who emotionally and verbally abuses his girlfriend (Allison). She has been trying to leave the relationship for over a year, but whenever she tries to pack up, Kevin berates her and physically stops her from leaving with all her things by trespassing her. When I talked to her about it, I offered to help her pack up. Kevin catches me and immediately trespasses me out of his house. He starts yelling at his girlfriend. I call the cops on him so they can mediate and ensure she packs up and leaves without issue.

Edit: I just got a call from Allison. She is still with him, nothing has changed. She apologized for making me help her. She tried to ask if I was the one who called the police, which I declined to answer. I asked her if Kevin was next to her, and she said yes. I said nothing more, then she hung up. Now I fear that this will get much worse.

About a year ago, I made friends with Kevin from a local range. I only started going to his house about 3 months ago. I thought he was a decent guy, just very principled. My opinion of him went down when I saw how he interacted with his girlfriend. He has a very 1950s-esque view of women and relationships, where he believes that the woman should be absolutely subservient to men. I disagree with that entirely and find it disgusting, but I held my tongue because it was their relationship and it seemed consensual.

Today reached a breaking point where Kevin got into a heated argument with Allison. I’m not going to disclose all the details, but he was very out of line and kept berating her over something trivial. She was crying, and him yelling at her didn’t help the situation. He made her come downstairs and tell everyone (myself and two other friends) that she needs to get her emotions in check and that she’s ruining the weekend for everyone. The two friends and I left shortly after to go to the gun range, but something didn’t sit right with me.

When we got back, Kevin and Allison must have been arguing again, because I could see her eyes swelling and her holding back tears. Kevin made her apologize for not having her emotions under control again. While the other two friends were leaving, I asked for them to sit down so we could have a civil discussion with myself as the mediator. Kevin spent most of the time talking about himself, his expectations, and didn’t really give Allison a chance to speak. Once I realized that the conversation was going nowhere, I asked Kevin if he could leave the room so Allison and I could speak in private.

I asked her if she was happy, and she said no. I told her that what I was witnessing was a textbook example of abuse, and that I’ve only seen their relationship for about 2 months, tops. I asked if she had any plans of leaving him. She told me that she’s been trying for the past year to leave him, but every time she tries to pack up her belongings and leave, he berates her. Kevin tells her that he will help her pack up, but he just yells at her, tells her that she’s giving up among other insults. After about an hour of this happening, Kevin usually formally trespasses her from his home, so she can’t really pack up her belongings.

I told her that if she wants to pack up, I will help her. I also told her that we should wait until Kevin leaves the house so we can do it without him knowing. She told me that she just wants to do it right now to get it over with, and that she trusts that Kevin won’t stop me from helping her pack up.

As soon as we finish getting some of her belongings out of the first floor, Kevin catches me helping Allison. He starts yelling at both me and Allison, and it gets very heated. I tell him to “shut the fuck up” so I can help her pack, and he slams the door in my face. Then he starts yelling at Allison more. I notice his backpack that contains a takedown AR-15 on the stairs next to him. I keep my hand on my carry pistol in case things get heated. I yell at him to let me in so I can take some of the stuff (one handgun and hearing protection) I left behind, but he refuses. About two minutes later, he gets it for me, then officially trespasses me from his house.

I get really scared for Allison, so I called the police. I told them what happened, and I asked for an officer to come to the house to mediate the situation and ensure that Allison packs up and leaves without any troubles. I leave the neighborhood shortly after, and I don’t know what happened at this point.

I just want to know if I did the right thing, and if there’s anything that I can do right now. Allison doesn’t have my phone number. I really didn’t want things to go down like this, but once he started doing the same thing to me that he did to Allison, I was wanted to help her. My mother was very abusive to me and my father, so it was like watching life on replay. I couldn’t stand by and do nothing, could I?