I (22F) was in long distance relationship with my boyfriend (23M) since more than 3yrs now. Well, everything was going fine and we met with each other too. Both of us were loyal to each other and there were no trust issues. But once between a silly argument he told me that there’s no future with me and that his family won’t accept me for marriage, since I belong to a different caste. He used to say this usually but he also said that everything will be fine and we will manage it together. But this time I wanted to have a serious conversation about it. And he told me that it’s so difficult for his family to accept love marriage. I am really shattered and I don’t know what to do now. He told me that he will be there with me in the present but he don’t know anything about what will happen to us in future. I love him so much and all of this is so difficult to deal with. I don’t want to be with him if he can’t even fight for us. I feel so unstable. He destroyed everything. There’s no point if I stay in this relationship anymore knowing that he won’t fight to be with me.
TL;DR! All of this is so difficult. I don’t to be in this phase. I feel so vulnerable.
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>I don’t want to be with him if he can’t even fight for us.
I thought the exact same thing, even before I got to read it. A man stays his ground and makes is way, even against obstacles. That hasn’t got any to do with castes. Other children of conservative parents around the globe have got the same problem. He has been playing with you.
Understand all what was good in the past years as a beautiful takeaway, cut the cord and move on. There are billions of men out there and I heard that a few dozen may even be quite usable.
Look, it sounds like your boyfriend is telling you that he doesn’t see a future with you because of your different castes.
While it’s hard to hear, it’s better to know sooner rather than later. It’s not fair for him to keep leading you on with promises that everything will be fine, especially if he knows his family won’t accept you. If he’s not willing to fight for your relationship, then it’s clear that he doesn’t see it as a priority.
It’s important for you to take care of yourself and move on from this relationship if it’s not healthy for you. It may be difficult, but staying in a relationship that is causing you pain and instability is not worth it in the long run. Take some time for yourself to heal and focus on your own happiness for you.