Extremely desperate. ANY solution helps 21M

A 9/10 girl wants to meet up next week and she keeps insisting I come over. I need to be able to get hard or I’ll fumble one of the best looking girls I’ve met.

Here are my stats:

-6 feet tall 160 pounds

-I can get a boner just fine when watching porn, or even just a flattering picture. I don’t get morning wood but it doesn’t really take much effort to get hard in the morning. So as far as I’m concerned there’s nothing physically wrong with my dick. Doctor couldn’t find anything wrong either, at least nothing malign

-I’m able to get a boner while kissing, but it goes soft right before I decide to actually do anything.

-I have 3 25 mgs of viagra which only help a little bit bc my problem is mostly mental

-I have a cock ring that fits well but it might be awkward having to explain it especially since I’m 21

-I have no other existing health issues and I exercise/eat healthy regularly

-I think I may have some form of asexuality, but I don’t exactly know what it is. I don’t need to have sex with a girl to say I had a good time with her, but it’s definitely frustrating for girls that do wanna have sex

Any solution helps guys. I hate how girls regularly think I’m attractive and the idea of meeting up w one just makes me depressed bc I go limp 9.99/10 times. (I know that this could possibly be a recursive issue) I feel broken. I’ve had a girl yell at me just because I told her I couldn’t get it up and she said “why even bother coming over then”

9 comments

  1. I take viagra, and I would think 75mg would help you based on the rest of your description.

    Here’s a question, do you leave somewhere weed is legal, and do you enjoy it? I find that I enjoy sex much more when I’m high. Part of it is because if chills me out and I don’t feel as much pressure to perform. The other part of it is that it just plain feels better, like sex in HD. Give it a go if it’s your thing.

  2. Honestly dude it sounds like a mental thing. I would get pretty drunk (1.5 bottles of wine) before she comes over

  3. >I know that this could possibly be a recursive issue

    That is the key insight: you have this issue *because you have this issue.*

    You are almost certainly not asexual. You have erectile dysfunction caused by performance anxiety and you have performance anxiety caused by erectile dysfunction.

    The Viagra may be the first step to breaking this very vicious cycle.

  4. idk but taking viagra at 21 seems young. also u said u can keep a boner while watching porn. how much do u watch it? how much do u masturbate? too much porn and masturbation can desensitize u to actual sex. my bf kinda had a big problem w finishing & kinda with staying hard at times until he stopped doing certain things. when i see him now sometimes we’ll have sex up to 5 times in a day lol and he finishes every time

  5. My experience was it was too cold for me body even I don’t feel in that way. I came from a tropical country, and when I first tried to have sex, I got soft right before it actual happened. The next day I keep my T-shirt on and turn on the heater, which turns out pretty well. Not sure if this can helps you, but this is base on my actual experience.

  6. Long term, get your gp to test your testosterone level. Morning wood at 21 is pretty normal. This is Because men’s testosterone level is the highest in the morning.

    Short term, explain to her that you’re extremely interested in her but kinda nervous. Most girls are understanding and are often flattered that you’re so into them.

    Lastly, relax. I think you’re in you’re head too much. Maybe take a break from porn, masturbating frequently as well. Not to say that’s your issue, but it might be adding to your feelings.

  8. I think regarding ED, it certainly can be a pervasive issue. I think an alternative that deviates from the Viagra suggestions, would be to look into other supplements on the market, such as:

    Korean Ginseng. Possibly a Ginseng complex that includes other types like Siberian Eleuthero.

    Saw Palmetto; I’ve used it off and on for probably about a week and a half. They are just as effective as the complex I take which also includes other things like; Royal Jelly, American Ginseng, Manchurian Ginseng, and Red Chinese Ginseng.

    In my short term research side as far as men’s health is concerned, there are other supplements available such as:

    L-Arginine, L-Lysine, Gingko, Theanine, L-Citrulline, Lecthin Granules, Pomegranate Extract, Schizandra Berry Extract… And another likely candidate on this list (many of which, either includes or excludes men’s health related to ED that is on my supplement wishlist),

    Panax Notoginseng.

    NOW I DO EXERCISE CAUTION WHEN RESEARCHING THE BENEFITS, SIDE EFFECTS, AND ALTERATIONS IT CAN CAUSE DEPENDING ON A VARIETY OF DIFFERENT BIOLOGICAL AND CHEMICAL MAKE-UPS.

    I think while having done my diligence by giving this to you, I’d like to say that it is fully your choice to choose what to go with. Especially considering there may or may not be long term side effects associated with either supplement that can either be a juxtaposition to what your biological health state may look like, or may benefit you in ways I can’t think of.

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