I had a one night stand with my boyfriends friend 8 years ago. After this one night stand ,we had no further associations with each other. No feelings were involved , and I did not even know of my boyfriends existence back then, known my bf for about 5 years now. Always been close with my boyfriend, been there for him always throughout these 5 years. The guy mentioned it to my boyfriend, whereas he asked me. I denied it, which may have been a mistake on my end, and my boyfriend let it go. I found it completely irrelevant which is why I denied it but I’m feeling guilty now for denying. I can’t lie, I was also scared of him viewing me differently despite it being so long ago.. Any advice, redditors?
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You didn’t do anything wrong. And you shouldn’t have made it a big deal and lied
You shouldn’t have to lie honestly. That was wrong. If the question pops up again you should clear it. And if this brings any sort if insecurity in your man’s mind, clear it before it ruins your relationship
Once he found out it’s a lie all trust is gone just own up to it if ya relationship strong that ain’t gone end it but a simple lie can
you did nothing wrong prior to lying about it to your bf. don’t know why his friend brought it up after all these years but i think it’s best u have that difficult conversation and tell him like u told us. simple as that. what’s important is you love him and care only for him now. just apologize for lying so you guys don’t let something minuscule like this evolve into bigger drama and ruin ur already good relationship. you putting in that effort to have that difficult convo and his response to ur apology will really show the current state ur relationship is in.
You should have been honest.
If I were you, I would come back on it.
Tell him you want to talk to him, that you felt ashamed when he asked and panicked and lied. So basically, the truth. I think it shows good character to come back to it and clear the air. Please be honest while you still have the chance.
Would be an absolute trust breaker for me.
Also getting the leftovers from your friend group is a dealbreaker.
I think you realize your mistake here. You can still let your bf know that you lied earlier because [reason] and tell him the truth. This is for your peace of mind.
The sooner you tell the truth, the better it is.
You didn’t do anything wrong, but the fact that you lied about it will definitely make your boyfriend think that you did worse things and are trying to cover it, because there’s no reason to hide something if you don’t think it’s wrong
If I were your bf, I would end the relationship.
My advice is to be completely honest with him. Do not play the card that it was before you were together etc… as this will just not wash. You fucked up massively by hiding this from him and only made it worse by lying. He will doubt everything in your relationship now, including if you have been faithful to him. You really have opened an enormous can of worms, that will hurt you both to your core. WTF were you thinking…..?
Girl you were fine until you lied.
I made the mistake of telling a friend about someone I slutted out that he was seriously dating. Now I’ll keep my mouth shut unless I’m asked.
People tend to see someone as “innocent” when feelings are involved.
The truth will set you free!
Tell him the truth ASAP