I have never had a girlfriend and im 21. Me and my friend have been friends since the end of last year. We met through uni/college classes. We sit next to eachother in and are talking for hours every night. She hangs out with her other friends who are all female. One day she said that her girlfriend and her were going to an island for a weekend. I didnt know if she meant friend thats a girl, or partner girlfriend. We spend so time together that you would consider us being bf and gf. We share everything. We hug when we have to leave wherever we are. We havent been on any dates. But her telling me about the weekend makes me think differently. We have never talked about partners or anything but we are way too close to just be friends. No “fun” has been comitted during this relationship. Is she my girlfriend??
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I don’t think she is tbh. Sounds like just close friends. If you guys haven’t flirted ever, its definitely just a friendship.
Part of a relationship is that attraction and intimacy. Could be your both shy/nervous to make a move but you could jeopardize your friendship doing that, if it goes wrong.
If you haven’t been intimate with her, gone on dates, or even talked about becoming more seeious with each other, she’s not your girlfriend.
Firstly, just doing romantic things doesn’t make you official or in a relationship. You could be dating but not gf/bf. Ask her out if you want her to be your girlfriend but she is definitely not atp. Asking someone to be your s/o is important because it comes with commitment, responsibility and the importance of being attentive to the other persons feelings. Don’t take a relationship too lightly either, it’s not just the good parts or hugging and shi 😗👍🏽
If you have not had a conversation where you’ve confirmed that you are boyfriend and girlfriend, no she is not your girlfriend.
Moreover, there’s absolutely nothing here to indicate you’re even romantically involved, let alone exclusive. You haven’t been on a date, the highest level of physical intimacy you share is a hug, and you don’t even know her well enough to know if she’s dating someone else.
Why not ask if the person she vacationed with is her partner? If you’re so close, how has this never been discussed?
Ok, another question then.
Is she seeing the girlfriend and she’s bi. Because i know she has dated other men. Idk bit its the way she looks at me while im on my phone, like she wants to leap and kiss me. But im confused with the other girlfriend comment.
No. You’re close friends from the sound of it. Nothing you mentioned would indicate a romantic relationship.
You have no romantic intimacy and you haven’t talked about being in a relationship. So you’re not in one.