ive always said no because im a pussy about it but i thought why not, ill never know if i like it if i havent tried it. so this week, i have someone to do it with if i don’t pussy out. im a virgin, and a socially anxious person so while it’s nearing to the date he comes here- i get more and more nervous and less excited when i just used to be more excited!
ik its all in my head, i think the worst case scenario each time but when im finally in the situation- im actually perfectly fine.. except the shaking that im scared they might see, then if i think about all the anxious reactions, ill probably even start stuttering with my words, and then it might go down hill from there and i wont end up enjoying the experience or something bad might just happen like me throwing up from how nervous and anxious i am, i hate that!
ive been thinking about having a couple of drinks before i go, the ride from the place is like fucking half an hour or more than that, so ik that wait would kill me too. so i need to get rid of my inhibitions at least.
the point of this post is.. idk i just need comfort. i wanna hear some of yalls experiences, are there any advices, tips, do yall drink before you go?
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You’ll be fine. Might want to set your expectations right, the first time for me and many of us was awful. But then the second was better and it just kept improving.
I’ve been in a similar situation. When I was a bit younger, I impulsively said that my partner can play with my boobs and legs however she likes. As the date drew nearer, I became nervous to the point of throwing up, so I spoke to her about it. Without even asking, she said that it was alright and offered to just cuddle, nothing more. This made me feel a lot better, so I went on the date and ended up being disappointed in missing out on what had previously been planned, so I told her, and we had a fun day together. 🙂
Talk with your partner about it. Set the bar low- make sure it’s something you both enjoy but will not cause discomfort. Once you’ve had sex, you can’t revoke it. What you can revoke is declining to have sex should you change your mind later on.
Why don’t you wait till you meet someone you are comfortable with.
I lost my virginity to my gf after dating for a year, and I was still nervous as he’ll. Glad my first time wasn’t some meaningless hookup …