18, female virgin.
I’ve been trying to recently. i’ve looked at videos and everything.
Before i try i edge myself atleast 3 times before actually trying so i can be super super wet.
And it took me like more than a week to actually get my finger in and not just about an inch in be that was as far as i could get it at first.
But i finally got my finger in after a shit ton of pain…i tried getting myself used to the feeling but once the pain was over it felt like nothing. I did the
‘come here’ motion and i went in and out, i did that for like 15 minutes but still nothing felt good.
Ok…so one finger doesn’t feel good but two fingers hurt wayyyy to much to even try. Idk what to do i rlly wanna try a g spot orgasm but it hurts a lot.
Does anyone have any help one this? or is fingering just not for me..? I’ve heard it feels better if someone else does it for you cause they can get the right angles. So maybe i could try that but idk. help pls
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As you’re fairly new to this, it’s not unusual to have a bit of a hurdle or pain while trying to do finger penetration. It would take quite a long time for some to get their vaginal opening to stretch to admit more than a finger. Trust the process and keep going slow and steady while attempting the same. If it’s unyielding then it’s time to get yourself checked by a doctor for any physical/psychological hurdles (hymenal issues, vaginismus, some mental blockade, etc). By mentioning videos, does it pertain to porn?
As far as ‘feeling not good’ goes. Pleasure is different for everyone, if you aren’t excited or aroused by vaginal stimulation then it’s advisable to explore things that could do the same. Also, G spot orgasm is something that’s not a norm as long as orgasm is considered as there are many forms and modes of orgasm that a vagina owner can achieve apart from that. As far as your curiosity to experience the same goes, there’s nothing wrong in trying again to achieve it by yourself/with the help of a partner.
If it’s hurting maybe adding someone else to the “experiment” would be more stressing to you, causing you to contract the muscles in your vagina which would lead to more pain. Try using lube so it lasts longer than your own lubrication.
I would also suggest to see a doctor because it my be vaginismus and it would require treatment.
You aren’t supposed to do anything…you do what you feel like. If it doesn’t feel good you do what does feel good.
I’m a 30F and very rarely finger myself because honestly the angle is just too strange and it’s rarely pleasurable. I like it when it’s done by someone else gently and I’m really really turned on, but I use it as an ‘added feature’ to clitoral stimulation. By itself it never gets me to orgasm.