I (45m) have been with my wife (41f) for many years. We have really good sex. I try really hard to ensure she cums every time. She is quite vocal about what she wants. She seems to orgasm regularly.
However I’m about 50/50 with ejaculating through PIV intercourse. If we have sex for a while I’m often trying to hold back and not cum until my wife has… by that point I feel like I’ve often missed my chance. She’ll tell me to keep going until I’m done. But I always feel guilty thrusting away in her when she’s clearly done. If I can get there quickly it’s ok. But if I know it may take me a few minutes I I feel like an ass using my wife like this.
I think in these situations I’d be more turned on by masturbating to climax. I’d really like to cum all over her body.
Question – is this too porno? Would most women find this “too much?” I feel comfortable with my wife to bring it up. Just wanted to hear what others thought first.
Thanks.
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What other women think doesn’t matter, you’ll be (potentially) cumming on your wife, her opinion is the only one that means anything in this situation.
The problem is you may then almost become dependent on wanking to get off. She may also start to feel bad for not being able to make you cum. You’re having trouble because your dick has become desensitised. A better option is slow down, withdraw 95% and just use the tip your head for a few minutes, then start again and finish quickly. Going back in after being out for a while feels great.
How about cum in her mouth?
Happens to me once in a while. My wife loves watching me cum on her, so maybe your wife would be into it too.
It’s all about her my dude. If she’s ok with it or not. Sometimes when I’m just not in the mood my man jerks off and cums on me. (I think it’s only happened twice in two years) or sometimes he’ll pull out and do it. But I’m good with it with him doing it as long as it’s not an all the time thing
We have no way of knowing whether your wife would be okay with it, so if you want to know, you’ll have to ask her.
There is nothing wrong about it 😊 I love when my husband cums on my body. Feels so good!
Ask her. Youre both grown ups
I think you might be thinking about this all wrong. Fucking your wife should feel good to both of you. You are having sex together, not “using her”.
It seems like some open communication would be helpful. Either to clear up that she enjoys sex with you or if like you fear, she feels used. I have a hard time thinking if she is feeling used that pulling out and jerking off till you cum on her would be an improvement, so I really think you should talk to each other and get a better understanding of her experience.
In my experience, my wife and I love and get pleasure from each other’s pleasure. She likes being my object of desire and pleasure. Which of course means I enjoy her all the more.
Consider reading Vanessa Marin “Sex Talks” that breaks down how to start talking about sex. Or you both can listen to the “We can Do Hard Things” podcast when she was a guest.
I think I speak for anyone when I say that knowing your partner is enjoying themselves and can achieve their own orgasm makes the experience all the more worth it. It’s clear that you care a lot about your wife’s pleasure, but I’m sure that part of her pleasure is knowing that you also get your share of pleasure. Trying new things in the bedroom can never hurt, just make sure to ask first.
Why does your title refer to your wife as a girl? Are you a boy?
Nothing wrong with that, it’s hot, as long as she’s into it.
I’m into women with hairy pussies and one of my favorite things to do is shoot my load all over a woman’s big bush.
You’ve been with her for years? Just ask her. Some women are ok with it, some find it hot, and some don’t like it. When I’m in that situation my wife doesn’t mind me finishing on her chest or pussy but doesn’t want it on her face. But everyone is different, just ask
I wouldn’t like to be cum on. It would feel demeaning to me. I’m guessing most will say they love it.
As a woman, I’d be good with either option. Thrusting feels AMAZING for several minutes after an orgasm so even if she’s just lying there like a puddle gasping for breath, it probably still feels great. My husband was circumcised so it would get dry if it took way too long after but several minutes was fine. When my marriage was in a better place, my husband often masturbated after PIV to cum on me. Personally, I preferred to be on my stomach so he came on my back when we did this, but he sometimes wanted other locations so we did it loads of different ways (pun not intended, but checks out lmao). It’s definitely a normal thing couples do and not too porny. Just check with your wife how she feels about it.
Most girls love it. You can still keep goin after she’s climaxed. Girls can have multi orgasms. I only stop when the girl tells me she’s too sore. Then I wud just fap over her face
I like feeling a man cum, cause you can actually feel the shaft engorge on its way out. If she already came she’s super relaxed and open so it stimulates her further, and who knows she may have smaller orgasms. If someone is going to cum outside of me i prefer the load in my mouth, but im a dirty bitch.