After a couple of months of dating, my girlfriend has indicated that she’s ready to be physical. Today, we are having dinner at her place. I (M 21) am a virgin and tensed. A quick search on the internet tells me that masturbating a couple of hours before can help one last longer. I obviously don’t want to be finishing in 2 minutes. Does that help or am I gonna be less interested if I score the winner before the actual game.
Also is there anything I should absolutely avoid and should be knowing of? I don’t want this to be a terrible experience for either of us cause I really love this girl.
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I’d go with not. First time can be as hard to finish for some guys as it is to last ten seconds. As long as she knows, she will be happy whatever the outcome and at your age you’ll probably be ready again in a few minutes anyway.
I think it depends on your stamina, but rubbing one out 3-4 hours before your date will probably be good for your first time. Yes, it is potentially possible you might be less interested on some level, but I think you will be alright.
Focus your attention on connecting, being present with her, and mutual pleasure. It will all be fine. Instead of worrying about how fast you might cum, try to figure out how you can make her cum.
Is it her first time too?
Things to remember, porn isn’t sex, so don’t try replicating porn. Don’t introduce kinks without asking. Not every girl likes getting hard ass slaps, hair pulling, dry fingers jackhammering our dry vaginas, butt stuff, choking etc.
So don’t assume, ask before trying that stuff. Make sure you focus on foreplay so she can have time to get relaxed and wet. This means kissing all over and teasing, but maybe don’t just shove fingers into her since often, that doesn’t actually give pleasure. The clit should be the main focus first before trying any type of penetration.
If she has had sex before, tell her you haven’t and ask her to guide you.