It feels very embarrassing to be asking about this when I’m nearly 30 years old, because this seems like such a teenage girl issue.
In short, I have a close friend who I used to sleep with and casually date for about a year. During those times he used to quite often initiate sex in the morning by spooning me and gently grinding on me in kind of half-asleep state.
We’ve been platonic for over 6 months now for various reasons, but we still frequently share a bed. Recently he has started doing a milder version of the old morning routine, kind of barely even noticeable, and it doesn’t go anywhere. And things like taking my hand in his very early in the morning etc. I also genuinely cannot figure out if he’s asleep when he starts spooning me or not. Or if it’s even possible to behave in this way when you are unconscious? Or not realise where and who you’re in bed with? Lol
I don’t want to bring it up with him because, sadly, I enjoy mornings like that and it gives me hope 🥲 all the other times we are more or less acting as platonic friends
TLDR: ex lover turned platonic friend who I still have feelings for started spooning me and barely noticeably grinding on me in the morning when we share a bed. Don’t know what to make of it
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>In short, I have a close friend who I used to sleep with and casually
date for about a year. During those times he used to quite often
initiate sex in the morning by spooning me and gently grinding on me in
kind of half-asleep state.
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>We’ve been platonic for over 6 months now for various reasons, but we still frequently share a bed.
I mean, I read this as nothing changed, you still have the same casual, average modern relationship without any boundary nor responsibility.
OP,
As much as it might be great for you to have your ex spooning you and giving you a level of intimacy you miss, it might be better for you in the long run to know what’s going on and react accordingly.
You shouldn’t give yourself false hope and hope he’ll get back into a relationship with you if he doesn’t have romantic feelings for you. Talk to him and tell him about your feelings and how they’re being reignited with the new morning routine. If he feels differently to you, you should put some space between the two of you and learn to move on, especially if either of you plan on dating other people as it might complicate dating.
Why are you sharing a bed with a platonic friend? Do they not have a house to go to? Maybe time to put some space between you both and have some time apart. There’s nothing platonic about it, and if you want more and they don’t, it’s only going to end in heartbreak.