Okay so I (26f) had sex for the first time when I was 18 and it was with my then boyfriend who I dated for 5 years and to put it plainly, the sex was not good and I for a really long time couldn’t understand what all the fuss was about
Cut to now when I’m dating my current bf and it’s absolutely fantastic and I now definitely know what all the fuss is about
I feel like I’m not doing enough. And I really try to be the one taking charge (in the sense of being the one doing it and not the one it’s being done to) and basically use positions where I’m doing most or all of the work. My bf does a lot and it’s amazing and he says he doesn’t mind but I can’t imagine that will stay true for very long, and in any case I think it should be both of us doing the work
Issue is that all of the positions I have tried don’t let me go for as long as I want and definitely not as hard as we like. I’ve tried many. I considered it could be because I just don’t have enough stamina but I’ve been working out and even if I can do it for a while it doesn’t feel as good
Any suggestions in the form of things / positions to try to make the work a little more balanced between both of us? and I just using the wrong positions or is it generally just not as good?
Thanks in advance!
2 comments
Well what have you tried already?
Honestly, it sounds like y’all are doing great. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to do all the work, he plays a role here too and in fact might like doing some work.
Since it seems like you already have a decently healthy sex life I would just talk to him about what you both want and start experimenting