So, I got an interesting video on my fyp. It describes if you want to be more social and charismatic all you need to do is pretend to be your favorite television character. For some reason I can’t get the notion out of my head the best character to be would be don draper (madmen). Tho charming and quick witted, don has character flaws. Who would be the best character to embody and why?
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Even in the best case where this works and people enjoy it it’s still not YOU people enjoy unless you actually learn and grow personally. It’s ok to be inspired by others but if you’re just playing a part people will never get to know you, just the role you’re playing.
That’s dumb advice. Being someone else and putting on an act will lower your self esteem even further which lowers your charisma.
Living on Tiktok pretending to be somebody else won’t work. It’s an act that you will never realistically keep up. Once people catch on to your act, they won’t associate with you because you aren’t being genuine. Ignore social media. Learn how to Genuinely connect with people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what they say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people. Being the best version of yourself is the best way to go.