(17m) I’m autistic and have always had trouble with reading people or communicating but it’s honestly as simple as it gets, take a deep breath and start talking, bring up past experiences, it doesn’t matter how the conversation goes because your getting better at holding conversations. Emphasis on deep breaths!
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thanks bruh
The best advice I can ever give someone is to pay more attention to what they are saying then what your saying body language hand gestures etc will all come naturally we subconsciously adapt like that took me so long to realize being too focus is bad for us
Deep breathes is actually good advice. So often during social interactions we hold tension in our body bc of the anxiety we feel. A lot of times for me, social interactions can kind of feel out of body and not in a good way, like I dissociate through them, stumble, and just generally am not as present as I can be. At the same time overthinking my responses, how I’m appearing, while drawing blanks. But tbh if I took a breathe and just grounded, intermittently throughout the convo even while the other person is talking – just bring my awareness to my body breathe and presence. And release all that physical tension I’m unconsciously storing. If I can just remember to do this I think I’ll find things flow more effortlessly. Bc at my core I am and know I can be socially fluent, just about tapping into that mind state. Deep breathes. Thanks bruv
Don’t forget to smile a bit as you’re doing it. That makes the whole conversation feel SO much more interactive and warm. Doesn’t have to be a huge smile either. You can even smile WHILE you’re talking and that has a GREAT effect on people.
Try it!
Thanks for the advice above, I think you’re right about just finding a way to get the ball rolling, thanks OP!