I (24f) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (25m) for about 6 months now. Last night, we were fooling around and took pictures. When I went to go add those pictures to the hidden folder in front of him, he saw old dirty pictures of my ex and I. I sincerely apologized and completely forgot that they were there to begin with. A few hours before, we had gotten into an argument about this ex.
He feels disrespected because in his opinion, those pictures should have been deleted when we first started dating but I kept them. He feels as though I intentionally kept them.
We’ve tried communicating, and I apologized and I acknowledged that what I did was hurtful, but he says that he doesn’t know if whether or not he’ll be able to move on from this.
I sincerely love him and I want our relationship to work. I’ve tried communicating with him, I validated his feelings, and I acknowledged my part in the role that I played, but he is still unable to forget because he thinks I betrayed our relationship.
How can I get him to move on from this?
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At least they are being honest
Just give him some time. I hope you removed those pictures already. It would be a good idea to check all your devices and clouds for photos of that ex so the situation won’t occur again. A little surprise might be a good idea too but not of sexual nature
You’ve handled it well by apologising and understanding how it looks. I think it will just take some time as long as you make sure he knows you didn’t keep them purposely. Delete them asap and cut off any ties with your ex too if you haven’t already. Don’t push it and be patient.