I have a sexual partner who was assigned female at birth but is non binary. That’s just to let you know, which anatomy I am talking about.
So, we have this problem that they get overstimulated or not Stimulated enough. If I go down on them, I have to be really gentle and just use indirect stimulation, basically rolling around their clit beneath the hood. Any direct clitoral contact will overstimulate in a matter of seconds. That’s why I try to go this gentle and steady. Unfortunately I get them almost there and then they get overstimulated before they can orgasm.
PiV on the other hand doesn’t do enough, doesn’t even get them close. Fingering does nothing for them and toys either do nothing or overstimulate.
Now I have tried to go down on them until they are almost overstimulated and then switch to PiV with either no clitoral involvement or slight thumb pressure just below their mons pubis where the labia majora meet. Still, no O in sight.
The lack of release is naturally not doing wonders for their enjoyment of sex. I want them to enjoy it and have as much fun with it as I do, but I am at a bit of a loss what to try next. It always seems to be too much or to little stimulation.
Have any of you ever experienced something like that? Is there something that worked for you?
Thanks for any advice!
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Search Kenneth Play on Pornhub and watch some instructional videos.
What I have discovered that works best for my wife is the combination of pressure and stimulation of multiple pleasure centers (clitoris, g-spot and fornix) at the same time.
A bit like your partner, I have never successfully brought her to orgasm from oral due to that combination of extreme sensitivity vs not enough stimulation.
However, by choosing a position that allows multiple stimulation of the pleasure centers (prone bone, scissors, misaligned spooning, table top on a high bed) we have managed to change the statistics.
Good luck 🍀