My (23F) boyfriend (23M) and I have a very good sex life, and a great relationship overall. Though, when we’re getting down to it, he always makes a comment about how he wants me to “romance” him a little bit, and I seem to have trouble with that sexually. Any tips/advice?

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  1. Learn his love language if you haven’t already, then do something for him. Buy him a gift, make him a particularly nice dinner, etc. Afterwards, when the two of you are sitting together wherever, start in with lots of physical touch, but nothing that immediately says “sex”. Rub his arms and back, put your head on his shoulder, hold his hand, kiss it and hold it against your face. Eventually kiss him a few times, just regular pecks, then relax your lips and let that tongue loose. Once it’s time, tell him to take you to the bed. Once you’re there: “make love to me.”

  2. Maybe ask him what he want. Some couples are more distanced and not very close, more like “official”. Do you guys cuddle? Maybe he is carving more intimacy.

  3. Plan a nice date. Wear sexy lingerie under your clothes and mention it while you are out
    Candles when you get back home.

  4. You know that excitement before a first kiss? The conversation that feels like your soul is filled up, and you go for it and there are fireworks?

    Well, you can kind of achieve that in a relationship too. Have a conversation that fills you up with love towards your partner with a twinkle in your eyes. Then you kiss passionately and the rest follows.

    This can’t be every time obviously but every great relationship needs some of it.

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