Throwaway for obvious reasons.
I (F23) have always had issues reading social cues (I’m a combo of austic and ADHD) and have been doing a lot of anti-racism work recently in the past two years. I have approached my roommate (F22) who is BIPOC a couple of times about race and whether something is a microaggresion on my end. However, I realized that I tend to overshare and constantly seek advice from everyone under the sun. When we first met, she called me on a microaggresion I had said and I apologized, explained my gratitude, and aplogized about the emotional labor she had to go through to “call me in”. I am relaxing how shitty I have been by constantly asking her for advice. I am not sure what the right thing to do here is. I know that she isn’t mad at me b/c she is blunt and brings up what is bugging her. What’s the best call here?
Tl;Dr – I relied on my BIPOC roomate too much for emotional support and I’m not sure what to do. Should I aplogize or should I express my gratitude?
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Express your gratitude.
Don’t apologize.
Double down on being thankful, even.
Keep it going as long as you can and don’t look back
You don’t have to please anybody no matter their race