I have an irrational fear of offending people. I get really anxious whenever I have to talk someone and I’ve even stopped pursuing friendships out of this fear. I’m constantly seeking reassurance that I haven’t pissed someone off and when I don’t get it my mental health suffers. As ridiculous as it sounds, I’ve been suicidal over someone being terse or distant to me.
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This sounds really hard. Sending you some love!
You need to do what scares you and act independently of your fear. Prove to yourself over and over again that it isn’t that dangerous. Words or rational thought will not help, only the experience of facing this fear.
Chances are, you might have some experience earlier in life that made you very scared of people abandoning you.
You will fail a lot. That’s completely fine.
This kind of growing is very hard to navigate alone. Something like CBT could help you.
Also, meditating can help you become a more calm person and give you the insight that your fear is not you.