Do i need therapy (suggestions please)?
I am going through a rough patch of phase where i can’t forget my past and just haunts me in various sleepless nights just trying to forget the very person i like. I can’t stop thinking even though it has been significant no of months past. It became like a visual cue in everything.
It just i am trying to supress the memories, it is just the voice in my head reverts me back. I am constantly being agitated, can’t say to anyone. I tried talking to 3-4 people i know the size is small but that it self became a herculean task for me. All say the same. It would be like an instant gratification but in motivation effective mostly for few hours.
Mostly i am trying to do activities which don’t use my brain or activities which make my brain run so can’t think of anything else, but it is taking a toll on my mental health. It like losing taste on the nicest food u can have but not feel it. It’s like having a penance for something which feels so disconnected or not related but sits on my head all the time.
Can’t express so came here for some suggestions.
Peace out✌️
TD;LR: is it necessary for me to take counseling or therapy to get out the thoughts of the person which are taking a toll on my mental health, making me like a less motivated and lethargic.
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Yes, you do need therapy. And you need to find a means to relax.
Maybe the lesson is to not forget the past so you don’t do it again? Acceptance of your actions or inaction will help. Make better decisions daily.
Yes, you need an in person therapist for your rumination and cyclic thoughts. Medication can also help your brain to stop being like a record going back around and around in the same thing.
The therapist has tools to help you learn how to break yourself out of the thought prison, and how to teach your brain to go and do other things now.
Thoughtless hobbies can help.
So can active hobbies where your brain is fully engaged, working hard at something.
Practice this:
“Dear Brain, thank you for that thought.
Thank you for trying to protect me.
But I’m ok right now.
I’m going to think about something else now.”
And then think of something else. Force it. It gets easier as you practice.
Mindfulness can also help a bit.
This movie on Netflix might help a little: Stutz
I’m just really worried that an internet therapist may not be qualified for what you have going on.
You don’t **have** to get therapy, but therapy is exactly for the kind of situation you’re describing.
If you’re really, really hesitant, try *Unf*ck Your Brain* or the associated workbook or *Acceptance & Commitment Therapy in 7 Weeks* but working with a therapist will likely be the most effective.