As a female traveling form a visit from my parents house to a country knows for skinny woman I am in dire need of help. In the country I work and will be traveling to it’s normal to “joke” about stuff like that and I never honestly found a good enough reply to this question. I don’t wornt to come off as insecure or “bothered” so I usually smile and laugh it off, but I want to gain a better way to deal with this situation.
Any advice or perhaps personal experience in this matter is appreciated đ
Edit: I was not expecting such an amazing response! Thank you for all your suggestions, I now have polite/bity/sassy responses in my mind and will definitely use them depending on occasions. I apologize if I couldn’t answer all of your comments and I wish all the Redditors here who read my full story and took their time to understand my question positive vibes and to have a lucky day đž
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“Nope. I’ve always been fat. But since we’re talking about weight, how about you? Have you always been that weight – like even when you were a teenager? I’m really curious.”
I have a client who keeps pulling this… she’s a little old lady so I’m trying really hard not to go scorched earth, but so far my responses to “you look like you’ve gained weight” have been:
“Nope! So Anyway…”
“Thanks!” *big smile, walk away*
“Yeah you too, huh?”
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Say âyes!!! Thank you for noticing!!!â
“Why? Jealous?”
“No thank you for asking, have you been sleeping well you look awful”
Yes. Thank you for noticing. This is the weight I am most comfortable with.
âWell, takes one to know one right?â
“Nope, I SHRUNK. That just makes me LOOK heavier!”
Were you always an asshole or did you work at it?
âActually Iâve lost 15 lbs. why do you ask?â
Cheerfully:
Yes, thanks for noticing! It seems like now both of us might lose a few pounds!
“I was just thinking the same thing about you!”
no u
Honest answer, if you want to be somewhat polite/professional, while also letting them know that they’re being rude, just reply “that’s a very personal question”
Did you lose social skills?
I like tacos, bitch! Mind ya own.
“Did you lose manners?”
Yes, I got tired of coworkers hitting on me
Start crying
I don’t respond politely to explicitly rude questions. I’d say it like it is: “that’s very rude of you to ask.”
âOmg i was just about to ask you the same thing!â
âNo, Iâm pregnant â.
Works best if your a dude.
I dont know. Did YOU?
Just say âyes Iâm on a bulkâ and then pick them up and throw them or if theyâre bigger than you (male) punch them in the balls and go âHooo aaaaa â(like Al Pacino) / (female) uppercut them and go âHooo aaaaâ.
I adjusted the Pre âHooo aaaaâ steps by sex as women donât have balls but I want to be unbiased and make sure every party endures physical pain.
Feel free to comment your iterations to this method.
« Why do you ask? » Make them double down on the rudeness.
I would say, âprobably. I love tacosâ
Honestly asking, why do you need to be polite? If itâs common for someone to ask that kind of question generally it should probably be common for you to respond with âSuck my dickâ or whatever you want to tell them to suck
âYou know, itâs really not polite to ask people questions like that.â In the most condescending, patronizing tone you can muster. Like a parent scolding a child.
I used to have a friend who was super into lifting weights and, if anyone asked about this, she pretended they were talking about her âgainsâ and would start literally flexing on people.
My family does this every single time I visit. It doesnât matter if Iâve just lost 20lbs, they will say: you look like youâre gaining weight. My best friend visited as I was at my Momâs place and did the same thing to her. I was mortified. My Mom is 74 so I try to brush it off. She recently did the same to my daughter who is 20. My daughter was respectful but visibly annoyed.
“No, but it looks like you did.”. Be sure to grab their sides as you say this.
What country is this? I never want to go there
“Not really but thanks for asking. Have you ever tried botox btw? It might help”
“Thanks for noticing! Life has been good lately.”
“Did you forget to brush your teeth?”
âI gain a pound every time you ask a stupid questionâ
â Yes! Did you too?â – with an obviously bright smile.
You say: âAre we still asking these questions? Itâs 2023.â
“Why would you ask me that?”
I have a sarcastic personality so I would say, âit takes a really socially adjusted person to ask that.â Then move on.
âYeah, did you?â Itâs confident and they canât get mad at you because itâs what they just asked you.
I love this thread so much! Got asked this a week ago my some “friends” & I had no idea how to respond to it but now I wish I had said one of these things lmao
but fr just thank them for being so obsessed w you & move on w your amazing life
These need to be said as cheerily as possible:
âI suppose I have put on a few pounds! How have *you* been, though? You look ex*hausted*!â
Alternatively:
âYes I suppose I have! By the way, I noticed youâve got some wrinkles showing up on your face. Age is irreversible, you know! Might get some anti-aging cream before itâs WAY too late, you know what I mean?â Then wave as you leave. This one only works if theyâre 30+ years old.
âi can’t help it. Your husband is a great cook”. âyour mom prefers me. “I’ve noticed that you’re too skelatoresque and went another way â âno.i can afford foodâ âmy husband likes it when I look like a normal person “
âI sure did! I knew YOU would say something about it ha haaaâ
“yeah, i finally beat cancer!”
In the most lighthearted tone:
â..are you keeping track of my booOOody??? OooooOoooo someone has a ~crush~!!â
Read as naively sweet as possible in their worst nightmare. I would absolutely just 5 year old them as long as they 5y/o you. good luck !