I lost my beloved husband a while ago. He’s buried a few blocks away from the house. Every single day I go to the store and I buy him a little bouquet of flowers.
It’s about $10 at the store by the house. I go there everyday. Today I got bored so I did the math and found out so far I’ve spent $11,690. Just on flowers.
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How many years ? Im sorry about your loss. It’s beautiful that you do this
Do you want to be spending this money?
What if you bought a bouquet and kept it in water at your house and every day you took a single flower from it to the grave. You would spend less money and have part of the bouquet with you to enjoy and with him
Why not put the money in a pot everyday and in a year you could do something with it to honor him. Sometimes the little changes we make help us the most.
Is this what your husband would want for you?
Loss is perhaps the most painful part of life… especially when it’s someone who made your world work. Sometimes you still hear their voice or envision them doing some of the things that made them so dear to you. It’s easy to feel sad & empty during all of this, and those that say time heals all wounds are wrong.
At the same time, what a true blessing it is to have had someone in your life who has made such a difference, whose memories and stories long outlast their lifetime. This is what I try to focus on… yes, they’ve passed away, but they’ll never be gone. You will be with me in all that I do, you were and still are my inspiration, and I will carry you in my heart wherever I go.
Life can’t ever be what it once was, but that’s true every day of our lives. You’re not alone, and his only wish in life would be your happiness… I hope you can find another small sliver of joy soon. God bless.
I’m so sorry for your loss
I’m sorry for your loss, he must have been a really great guy. Is there anything you can get involved with like volunteering? It will bring you friends and satisfaction of helping someone else which oddly enough can help. I’m extending you a bog virtual hug my friend.
It’s beautiful.
One of my favorite quotes from Leonard cohen is to “never lament casually”
you lost a great love. The love.
It deserves to be mourned.
But slowly you might redirect that back to you, as your husband was a reflection of you anyway. You’ll see
Your grief is priceless, take your time just like your husband would have wanted you to. I’m sorry for your loss
Guys, she’s sad. Give her a break.
Some people spend more than that every day at Starbucks. If it’s something that gives you comfort, then it is money well spent. If you feel like you’re just doing it out of obligation/routine, or want to save money, you could try doing it once a week to see how you feel, otherwise, you keep doing it as long as you need to!
As a fellow widow, one thing I can say – when you feel ready to stop – do NOT feel guilty. You need to do what’s best for you, and stopping the tradition doesn’t mean you’ve “moved on,” or forgotten, etc… our methods of grieving and remembering simply evolve over time.
I’m sorry for your loss, if this makes you happy and you can afford it who cares
It’s not the $11,690 spent on flowers that is concerning but the fact that you say you’ve given up on everything. Please don’t. You can keep your husband’s memory alive and still live your life. It’s been 3 years and you’re still feeling like this; please get some help.