I was in a long term relationship in high school where we had a pretty toxic sex life (immature teenagers who don’t communicate). After we broke up two years ago, my sex drive went up like crazy and I wanted to start hooking up with people. When I got to college, I tried hooking up with people, but the sex was horrible each time and I couldn’t get turned on at ALL.
I realized that I only get turned on and “in the mood” when I am with someone I know and care about. This isn’t a bad thing, but I’ve been single for so long and so horny for actual good sex that it’s driving me crazy. I hate dating apps, I hate small talk that goes nowhere, and I can’t seem to meet anyone at my college who doesn’t just want to fuck and leave.
It’s driving me nuts. I constantly want sex and am horny so often, but I can’t get any action because I need to form an emotional bond with someone first. Someone PLEASE tell me I’m not crazy or they are going through the same thing.
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Watch porn and masturbate.
YOURE NOT CRAZY!!
Girls like to bond over sex and if you’re not mentally with a guy, it’s infuriating.
You gotta meet more guys till you’re comfortable with one.
You could try a fwb thing if that’s in the cards for you and you’re comfortable with it. Or masturbate like another user said.
But yeah, I getcha. I know a lot of people who are similar to you, and honestly I think you should look up demisexual because that’s exactly what you described. So no, you’re not crazy and there is DEFINITELY a whole community out there who experiences the same thing. I might honestly be the same way tbh. But I wish you good luck in your endeavours soldier
This is perfectly normal and you are not crazy. Sex with strangers is lousy for lots of people. After doing it a lot, I decided by own policy was not to have sex before the second date. It does require effort, though, because you’ve got to filter out a large number of guys who lack the patience and social skills to get to know you before having sex.