Hello all, this is really hard for me to share. I’ve been in a great relationship for 6 months now. This guy is everything I’ve been missing in every guy I’ve dated.
He treats me so well. For some reason in the last year I’ve begun missing my ex that I dated over 3 years ago. We had a lot of issues so l’m not sure why I miss him. I know he wants nothing to do with me anymore. He even has me blocked on Facebook after I reached out to him 7 months ago asking if he would ever take me back if he wasn’t dating his current gf. I broke up with this guy twice. I knew I didn’t see my life with him. I can’t help but always wonder, is he still with that girl, would I be happier with him, did I mess up? In my gut I know I didn’t. I think part of it has to do with how life would be financially better with him compared to any guy I met before. I know that sounds shallow but life is a struggle when it comes to money. Also, it’s hard to remember the bad times or things that annoyed me about my ex and it’s easy to get annoyed by the small things in my current relationship. Nothing red flag like but the usual stuff like he is stubborn and that can get annoying. I know my ex had so many of I wouldn’t have broken up with him twice. I love my bf so much and having these thoughts of missing my ex or wondering what he is up to now is eating me alive. I feel like the worst gf in the world so I don’t need to hear that. It’s so odd because I didn’t miss this guy for 2 years so why should I care now? I see a future with my current bf but these thoughts will destroy that. Any advice?
Tl;Dr I miss my ex sometimes and it’s impacting my current relationship. I have an amazing relationship and my ex wasn’t my person. Why am I having these thoughts?
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I don’t think you’re ready for a new relationship since you’re not over your ex.
You’re focusing on this guy because you’re avoid confronting what it is you’re missing in your current relationship.