The title is pretty much what it seems. I cannot make my girlfriend finish. And not only that, but a conversation we had today leads me to believe that most of the time, sex doesn’t actually feel good for her at all.
This is absolutely not for lack of trying. I have tried over and over. I know that everyone reading this is screaming “JUST COMMUNICATE”, but I promise it isn’t that simple. We do communicate. The issue is, she doesn’t know what to do either. She has never had an orgasm, even from masturbating. Might I also add that we are each other’s firsts, and have been together for over a year.
She tells me, “it feels good knowing that it feels good for you”, but that just is not comforting to me at all. I feel extremely inadequate, especially considering how good it feels for me. At this point, is there any point to having sex at all? If it doesn’t feel good for her then sex is just a one sided affair, and that makes me feel selfish.
I am not particularly big, but I’d say I’m average sized. I asked her if my dick is too small, and her response is, “I have nothing to compare it to.” I say, “do you think a bigger dick would feel better?”, and obviously she denies, but I cannot help but think I’m simply not good enough.
Everything else about our relationship is amazing. We’re absolutely obsessed with each other, spend every free moment together, I genuinely want to marry this girl, and she wants to marry me. We have even talked about it. But how can I think that when she gets zero sexual gratification from our relationship? How would it be fair to lock her into a lifetime of terrible sex?
I’m sure anyone reading this can tell I’m spiraling, so I apologize if it’s a difficult read. I guess my question is- what do I do?
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You do realise only 40% of girls finish from vaginal six right? Do you go down on her at all?
First, this has absolutely nothing to do with your penis size. If your girlfriend doesn’t know how to have an orgasm on her own, she can’t very well teach you to give her one. The first question I would ask is what happens when you stimulate her clit, either with your hand or tongue? Does it feel good to her? If so, keep experimenting in that direction.
She needs to learn how to give herself an orgasm, so that she can teach you. This isn’t on you at all. Since the brain is the biggest sex organ that we have, the best thing you can do is to be supportive in her endeavors to learn and to not pressure her to orgasm.
Honestly males need to realise size doesn’t matter. It’s so normal for females to not being able to orgasm from just penetration. Look at getting a finger vibrate to use on her clit while penetration her. Try different positions while trying that.