I (28M) am trying something new. The last couple of women I’ve been with, I’ve tried going 80-90% gentle and 10-20% rough. Reason is because I want to enjoy the moment with her and make it more pleasurable and relaxing with a little bit of rough play here and there.
I used to do more rough than gentle and I feel like I’d get too lost in the moment and not really care about the girl I was with.
What’s your stance on this?
4 comments
Communication! Everyone is different. Talk to her.
I like when sex starts gentle lovey dovey and ends with rough.
Yup communication is definitely key! If you are really into rough safe words are great too. Plan them beforehand. Mine were green, yellow and red. I love rough and find that guys are sometimes cautious but knowing I’ll say yellow if he’s going to hard or red if I need him to stop makes you be able to let go.
You have to 100% respect the safe words though, like red you stop no matter what.
I love when it starts gentle, then rough then back to gentle. I love both types and I’m completely fine with 2 minutes of gentle then rough for how ever long then gentle for the last couple of minute. Finishing on gentle for me shows that the guy actually cares enough to slow it back down. I also think having a safe word in place is important as well