A guy I hooked-up with told me during our second time together that he wouldn’t be comfortable being rough with the “women he loved” or “his wife”. I’m like baffled and so confused as to why he brought that up. Surely, allusions to a future hypothetical wife are inappropriate??

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  3. Was he rough with you tho?
    That may mean he don’t see you as love or wife material, so he feels safe being rough

  8. I can’t think of anything I could possibly care about besides STDs

  9. well, since a hook up is pretty impersonal, anything remotely personal should be left in the glass on the nite table.

  10. I have a strong suspicion the internet has made this man believe that all women are looking for rough sex.

  11. The only thing I ever bring up is my name – women tend to just let it all out … Past traumas, recent ex boyfriend, jobs, friend drama.

    Idk what it is, but if you shut your mouth and don’t open up – people just kind of fill the silence with anything.

  13. Avoid calling her by her name. Use generic terms like baby or whatnot. Helps to avoid using the wrong name lmao whoops learned that one hahaha

  15. Nothing is off-limits. I don’t do hookups but try to weed out easily triggered girls from relationship-material very early on with these kinds of silly snarky remarks.

  17. RED FLAG. if that’s his state of mind he’s having some perverse thoughts about you and other women.

  18. It means that he’s uncomfortable doing that and it’s a quality his future lover/wife would not have.

  21. I think he likes you. I wasn’t there. But maybe you said something that sounded like a suggestion of rough stuff.

  23. I walked out on a girl I was seriously dating and never looked back when she told me what she wanted me to do was basically rape her. Literally, she wanted me to ambush her one day, knock her to the ground, punch her until she could not resist anymore, and force her into sex.

    Not in a million years.

  24. I’d never been involved in rougher stuff before either, and I still haven’t decided how I feel about it. It feels like I’m dehumanizing my partner and I struggle with it.

    However, that’s my partner…not a random hookup, and even though I don’t get into hookup culture or do ONS/FWB, if I did, I couldn’t imagine saying that to someone I was only fucking. I’d just stop fucking them.

  25. The whole benefit of fwb is experimenting and kinda being open minded. Most girls Ive ever known like rough hard deep pounding. I’m married now and my wife still loves it. Maybe he’s too vanilla to meat your needs. All the fwb I’ve ever had we didn’t talk about much personal stuff. We kept conversations nice, Short and sweet. Maybe I just understood the assignment

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