What are some examples of “women supporting women” that is actually exclusionary or elitist?

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1. Women only supporting women they deem attractive.

2. Only supporting women of higher income or conventional attractiveness success stories.

3. Women supporting women… who actively campaign against women.

4. women supporting women to succeed in a system that exploits other women.

5. TERFs. JK Rowling’s Twitter has some excellent examples (yes, she’s still at it).

6. Women who only support cisgender women

7. Swerfs, terfs. Women that only support women of similar beliefs, backgrounds etc or when it fits their own narrative.

8. Madeline Albright’s quote “There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.” Really Madeline? Because I don’t recall you supporting Sarah Palin or any other conservative women. Apparently her “special place in hell” is reserved only for liberal women supporting other liberal women.

   I’m staunchly liberal but that quote has always rubbed me the wrong fucking way.

9. Women supporting women…..but only if it directly benefits them.

10. Glossier

11. women who passively insult or put down other women for not confining to whatever standard they deem necessary to be ‘feminine’

12. The early American suffrage movement was notorious for throwing Woc under the bus (or wagon, cart…whatever they threw you under back then).

13. In the book ‘White Feminism’ by Koa Beck, the author highlights how many of the initial efforts to gain voting rights for women were narrowed down just to white women.

14. I think the idea that you’re entitled to my support based on your gender is pretty exclusionary of good sense but that might just be me so 🤷🏻‍♀️

15. When white women talk “pro-women” speak when they really mean pro-white women. A lot of loud white feminists are extremely passive aggressive and low key racist. I work in a heavily conservative male-dominated industry and I can honestly say that the sexist old school Republican white men have done more for my career then the self-proclaimed white feminist. Unfortunately, as a non- light-skinned mixed Black woman other non-Black POC women can also be just as bad. There is a heavy anti-Black sentiment that I’ve observed all my life with this concept.

16. Some ppl have mentioned women that only support attractive women, but women only supporting women who aren’t attractive is also an issue. There’s the whole juvenile issue of ‘I hate this woman because she is pretty and popular and I associate being pretty and popular with being a shallow s-word’

17. Women automatically assuming that women from certain religions like Islam are oppressed by the men in their lives – especially if they dress modestly.

18. You know when they talk about “women owned” businesses but they don’t include the auntie’s eatery she runs from a tiny booth in a corner? That.

19. every sorority

20. MLMs (multi level marketing) schemes. Herbalife, Lularoe, Paparazzi etc. they are literally set up so that only the first couple of people can actually make any money.

    All of the #bossbabe in the world won’t change the numbers.

21. TERFS

22. Cis women only supporting cis women

    If you don’t support trans women, then you can’t say you support women.

23. supporting a women only because she’s a women… *cough* amber heard *cough*

24. Queen bee syndrome in the workforce, women ranting about how there are not enough women in power positions but actively trying to stop other women from having more power.

    I remember I had a friend that just couldnt concieve that both of us could be smart and do good, one had to be better than the other, like wtf? Why cant we both live our education/work to the fullest?

25. A lot of “women supporting women” movements I encounter are broadly age-centric. They either look at you as if you’re an irrelevant little pest with nothing of value to say if you aren’t a 50 year old Director of Whatever who hits with the big boys, or like you’re an old backwards “basically a Republican boomer” if you don’t think the right to wear booty shorts to present your PowerPoint to your Whatever Studies 101 class is the most pressing issue of our time. Both tend to be profoundly classist as well, and tend to dismiss women who aren’t well off as just maids or backwards NPCs who just don’t get it. It’s not that those movements are like….wrong or unnecessary or anything, but they’re often presented as “women’s movements,” period, rather than movements for women in high corporate settings or for young women discovering their sexuality.

26. Women only supporting women who are biologically female or only supporting women who are rich and considered “beautiful” or not supporting women who like to hang out with boys/ do activities that are considered boyish.