How would you know if that person you spot somewhere is insecure? What are their behaviours and does it piss you off or something else and why?

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1. Insecurity shows in how much your social interaction tries to create validation. For some that means that they can’t stand silence and have to fill it with things they think others could find interesting, followed by these side glances at everyone to check if they actually found that interesting. For others it means that they always relativize what they say, by adding, at least that’s how I think it is or but I don’t know much.

2. If it’s super obvious it makes me uncomfortable since I’m just sensitive to people’s mood like that.
   Also it reminds me of myself which makes me uncomfortable.
   I mostly feel bad for them, I’d never get mad.

   It’s difficult to pinpoint.
   A lot of it seems to be nervous fast talking, tense body language, making themselves small, looking away, talking very softly.
   Saying ‘I don’t know’ ‘maybe’ ‘sorry’ a lot. (Signaling fear of rejection or offending others).

   I notice they say stuff that’s missing the point or out of nowhere, possibly because they can’t follow the conversation cause the anxiety makes them be in their own head too much (my guess).

   These are the things that are obvious to me personally, mostly because I can relate in a way. I wonder if there are more any that might be a blind spot for me that I also don’t notice in others.

   But then there’s probably a ton of people who are insecure and it’s impossible to tell, but you’d obviously never know how many of those there are.

   I’ve had people tell me I seem easygoing, chill, and seem good at making friends. Whereas I feel my insecurity at times can be spotted from miles away.