So I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have a 4 year old son. We have always talked about buying a house together, getting married and having more children. Important to note that we have never lived together and he lives over an hour away so we only see each other at weekends. I recently discovered from my sister that he is planning on waiting another 18 months minimum to propose, so we will have been together for over 6 years at this point. This was shocking to me as he has previously told me that he is planning to propose this year. We have no plans to move in together and he has postponed the only plan we have in our relationship. I feel guilty for questioning the lack of progression in our relationship.
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TBH I think he may be afraid. Getting married (just like moving in together) isn’t exactly as small deal. Granted neither was having a kid but we’re past that point.
I would deff ask what his hangups are in progressing this so you can work through them together. I’d also recommend to not get married BEFORE you’re living together for some time first. What’s happening there?
Any reason you haven’t proposed to him?
Hoping and waiting for the other to provide what you want is rarely the right choice.
You want an engagement? Propose him!
Fuck traditions and customs. You want something, you go get it!