My hubby and I went to a higher end strip club last week and got a private dance. Neither of us had ever done this before, but we loved it!
To both our surprise, the stripper allowed us both to rub her breasts (she said we could touch anywhere that wasn’t clothed, ie crotch).
My question is: Is this normal (can we expect to get to do this again if we go back or was this a fluke?) and is it legal to get to do this? Inspite of all the websites out there, the answer to these two questions is rather vague online!
On a side note: I walked away from the whole experience enamored by the athleticism, fitness, kindness, and just how awesome these ladies are.
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Depends on where you go and who the stripper is.
I’d say it isn’t normal, but also not super uncommon.
I’m jealous. My husband has never taken me to a strip club.
It’s normal. I haven’t been to a strip club in a long time, but when I did go, it was typical. I always kept my hands to myself unless told otherwise, but I even had a stripper tell me one time I NEEDED to touch her for her to get into a VIP dance.
It’s normal. Every club I’ve ever been to has allowed it.
It really depends on the place so you should always ask if thats what you are expecting, it definitely helps that you are a couple I have found that going with a girl gets you much better treatment and access.
Depends on where you go…if you’re a good tipper, they invite busy hands. Been a few years, but I got a BJ on my last trip to one. Compliments of a work colleague
I always ask the dancer themselves. If they’re not comfortable me touching them then that’s fine. If they say I can touch I go for it.
For my expirence with a VIP dance the girl was fondling my balls while rubbing her ass on my boner so it might be a VIP thing where they feel the need to do more.
I worked security at a strip club years ago( 2007-2009). Back then, if we saw a guy touching boobs, we’d give em a warning. Second time we would “help them leave”. Now, in the private rooms, it was up to the person watching the camera. The girls were kinda split on it, but guys would get stupid pizsed if the girls didn’t want it
In my experience, this is never allowed by the club and rarely allowed by the dancer. Definitely don’t go anywhere expecting it, but I’m glad you had a good time and maybe you’ll be invited to touch again
Honestly depends on the clientele. If you’re clean, looking in attractive, or they feel safe around you then they typically will let you. If you’re gross looking and unattractive they will make you pay extra or just not let you touch them at all. They let me do anything sooooo yeah it was normal for me at least. Haven’t been in a long time though.
I’ve only been to two clubs, and have always gone with my wife. First time we went to a high-end club in Vegas, and it was very sterile feeling. Second time we went to a seedy club in my hometown, and it was exactly as you described. In fact, the last time we went the stripper started grabbing my wife’s boobs, just to help break the ice.
That’s part for the course in South Florida clubs. Full nudity with alcohol and most chick’s let you touch anywhere except their genitals
>is it legal to get to do this?
Police, this one right here!
Some areas it normal, most it’s not. Need to know where you were to tell you.
Guam has amazing strip clubs where almost anything goes.
Common in every Canadian Club I’ve ever been in.
Thanks for taking the time to answer my question. All in all, I was impressed with how nice and unseedy the place was. Because of movies, I always had one thing in my mind about strip clubs, but at least this place wasn’t anything like that.
It really depends on the club, the safety levels they have, the dancer, and the state rules. There are a lot of factors.
It is legal if its consensual. But its not obligatory. Every stripper will have their preference, but you get to pick who your dancer is. But you gotta kinda get to know them to see if they’d let you touch them, or you can roll the dice. Not sure if the question would be received well if asked out right that you want a stripper that will let you touch them haha.
But if you go back and get the same dancer you’ll probably get to touch again. I havent gone in years, and the entire culture around sex, consent, and stuff has changed a lot. But from my experience most will here in Canada, but I think part of it is those types get better pay out and stick around longer/pull in more money for the club so they’re more desirable to hire? But thats just a thought idk how any of that actually works. But I’ve definitely had strippers want no touching for sure. Both are common.
Some stip clubs allow touching while others do not. Also some stippers allow touching while others do not.
It honestly depends on the girl, I would let it happen for extra tips if I found the person to not be creepy and good vibes.
Like many have said, depends on the stripper. I find that all nude places seem to blur the line more. I’ve had one stripper reach down and stroke me without permission. I tell my wife (she wouldn’t mind) that I wouldn’t be comfortable going with her due to that experience.
From my experience it depends on the dancer. Just ask if it’s okay or not and they’ll tell you.
It was a long time ago, but I worked some full nudity clubs back in the day. Here, if a cop caught you letting someone touch you, you and the club could get busted for prostitution, so they were really strict about that. Nobody wants a raid. Things were sometimes more lax for women depending on if it is a couple, or if the individual was willing to let you do whatever in the champagne rooms.
I imagine having a women there kind of helped make the performer feel comfortable
I’m a stripper and it’s normal. As long as you don’t touch genitals. And respectful. If you’re groping and being aggressive it’s a no.
**The exotic dancer will let you know, NEVER ask.**
From my limited experience years ago here in SoCal, this almost always happens in private booths. She will guide your hands to her body where she is willing to let you touch her.
OTHERWISE NEVER TOUCH A DANCER. It’s a good way to spend the rest of the night in urgent care getting patched up after the bouncers rightfully beat the fuck out of you. Some of them live for those nights.
It’s because you were there together. I cannot speak for strippers but there is a very distinct difference if I go with guys versus if I go with a woman partner. some strippers seem to be much more comfortable with some touching with a woman accompanying a man.
You can fuck inside a strip club. Depends on the club.
My husband and I visited a strip club on our wedding night. There was a dancer that was my favorite and we spent the entire night with her and we got to touch every inch of her body. We even got her number and still communicate.
I went to a strip club with a guy I was hooking up with. The dancers put my hands on their boobs but wouldn’t let my friend touch lol. I had a blast that night. The girls were all so sweet and made my visit memorable.