So basically, I’m in this group of friends where there’s also my ex girlfriend. The thing is that we’ve been together for 2 months, where everything was going great but suddenly (my ex words) “because everything was going so good, I got scared” she broke up with me saying that she doesn’t want a relationship ecc ecc. It turned that she wanted only to have sex with me and nothing else, she even said “but I found you so interesting and a beautiful person that I would still like to see you alone”. After we broke up, she tried to contact me, but I’ve tried to keep it short because I was so sad that I didn’t want to get hurt again. After a month those feelings didn’t pass, so I decided that maybe it was necessary to speak with her to understand if I missed something of her, or it was just the fact of being alone. When I asked her to meet she said immediately yes, but after a lot of tries to meet where she was always saying that she couldn’t meet like 2 hours before meeting, I gave up and I said “if you want to talk to me, you can find me at my house, I’m tired of this” and she just replied “fine”. In the last few days I had to deal with the situation of being with my friends and her. She barely interact with me and when we are alone she avoid looking/talking to me. I’m starting to get frustrated of this situation, so I’m thinking to take a period where I will try to avoid to go out with our friends when there’s also her. I know it’s sound childish, but everytime she’s around I don’t feel safe and I’m always nervous, and I don’t want to share this feelings with my group since I don’t want to create uncomfortable situations. Everyone keeps telling me “just ignore her, pretend she’s not there” but I simply can’t, I probably still feel to much feeling for a person who doesn’t deserve me. What you think?
TL;Dr my ex is acting bad with me and we are in the same group of friends, I know it’s sound childish but I’m thinking of avoiding to go out with them when she’s around for a period. Everyone is saying just ignore her but I can’t
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It’s not childish? It’s sensible to maintain no contact. I’d stop trying to have a friendship. She obviously doesn’t really want it, and you don’t really want it either because you just wish you were still dating. Block, avoid, re-focus your life for a bit until you settle into a new normal.