Hi, I am a 19 yr old and I just recently got into a relationship.. I have always been a conversation starter with her and a one day I didn’t start one just to see if she would start one. About 30 minutes rolls by and nothing has taken place, so I asked her if she is in the talking mood. Her response to that was, “I didn’t know you were waiting on me to say something”. She told me I needed to be patient with her.. is she draining my social battery or does she is she just bad at starting conversations?
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Sounds like she might be ASD or at least an introvert. We struggle to start conversations- either don’t know what to say or I personally feel like I’m bothering the other person.
Just take it slow and communicate as needed. It’s easier than to let frustrations build up
Don’t test people, communicate. Ask her if she doesn’t like to talk or just doesn’t like to start a conversation. Don’t just presume anything, especially bad intentions, if you have no reason to do so.
So y’all just sat there in person for 30 minutes and said nothing? Sounds odd considering the relationship is recent