So I have a crush on this guy we meet in university and we met with the rest of the class on a bar he was fun and nice and after that I started crushing over him! After a month of that I finally asked him out and he said yes!! But when we’re discussing on where we should meet, he offered me to come over his place!!! Since we were not sure where to go!! What do you think! Do you think it’s a red flag?
Other than that he is a really nice guy as far as I know
Note: he is a gamer and a tech guy so I’m assuming he maybe doesn’t know how to act around girls? Idk
8 comments
Sfhjgggf he’s not tryna waste any time to get these butt cheeks
That’s kinda lazy tbh. Doesn’t sound like he’s taking it seriously either
A lesson for everyone. You spot a red flag but infatuation keeps you in denial. It only ends one way people. Wasting your time neglecting the reality.
There’s nothing wrong in rejexting that proposal and saying you’d rather meet in public. Since you’re students I guess it would be too much to ask for a night out or a dinner cause he is expexting to pay then.
A Coffee shop, park walk or some other activity like sports is a great way to know someone.
Some people, like myself, don’t have the intention to do the deed and actually try to get to know the girl when I invite them to my home but I always Suggest a public alternative cause it might not be comfortable to her
>we meet in university
>Note: he is a gamer and a tech guy so I’m assuming he maybe doesn’t know how to act around girls
He may or may not know the implication behind inviting somebody over. I did not at that age
don’t go to his place. he wants to know if you’re an easy girl. refuse to go but instead propose that you meet for coffee or lunch in a public place. do not go to his house even after that. don’t get in his car after that, go home by your own. do this a few times and see if he still agrees to see you. don’t give him easy terrain to move on.
Don’t be in private with him on a first date. This is more about personal safety. Hang with him in public until you get a feel for his vibe
One thing to mention here, because I have done this myself multiple times. Sometimes you forget women have very legitimate reasons for not wanting first dates to be alone in a non-public place.