How helpful have your partners been in helping you deal with anything you’ve struggled with mentally?

20 comments

1. Helpful in the way I got worse, sure

2. Not very helpful at all.

3. Current partner tries her best. Previous partners have all left at the first sign of any mental hardship on my part

4. Very – but they’re not my therapist and I don’t expect them to be.

5. Not at all. Don’t look to women to help you with mental issues

6. My whole family shitted on me instead of helping me. Fucc em

7. She does what she can, but your partner is not a fix for your issues, and its unfair to put that stress on their shoulders.

8. When I finally broke down and opened up she did the best she could. It was all I could ask and it was more of her just being there. I didn’t expect her to cure me, just listen.

9. Very. Two years ago I was hit by a car. After 11 days in the hospital I kept getting notices of procedures and other paperwork (fortunately no bills since I have Medicare and insurance), but it was overwhelming me. I’m usually very independent but this was stressing me out.

   Without me asking, my GF took it upon herself to organize it all for me and make sure I wasn’t missing anything important.

   It eased my mind and helped me with me mental recovery which helped my physical one.

   Love her for the support and lots more.

10. Last one dumped me when I started struggling. So yeah…

11. Zero percent.

    Women are useless in that regard.

12. Useless. Actually, worse than useless, because they will use it against you later.

    All women work for Satan. I have seen their W-2 forms with “Satan” printed on the “Employer” line.

13. sometimes they helped, sometimes they made it worse, it’s still another person that is dealing with their own stuff so you can’t expect it always to be the same effect

14. My wife is the best and does everything she can. I also have a therapist because that’s not really her job.

15. Not at all, mostly dismissiveness, ignorance, belittlement or plain turning a blind eye.

16. 0/10 helpful. But that’s not their job. If you expect someone to help you (and they have no skills in that field) it’s delusional to expect anything other than disappointment.

    As for my last partner. She was struggling mentally herself (which actually made my life incredibly stressful). That’s like expecting the sick to take care of the sick.

    You, as the individual, need to be your own best advocate. In an ideal world, you need to identify your needs and seek out adequate help. Even if you need help getting help (there are also professional case managers / health coaches who assist patients in this). But it’s still kinda on you to seek out that help and stick to your treatment plans.

17. In early 2022, I was 100% burnt out. Started to lead to anxiety attacks, insomnia, angry outbursts, etc.

    She shouldered so much while I worked it out. She would force me to decompress, get away, disconnect, anything to dial me back.

    Can’t thank her enough.

18. They are usually the cause of it. Or if they aren’t, tend to make it worse.

    I used to go to my dad but he died. So now I just keep that shit locked down.

19. Bad

20. Not very helpful. I mean they can be supportive or try to be helpful, but ultimately you are the only one that can truly deal with your mental struggles.