So I been on a few dates. Dates started from dating apps such as bumble and hinge to grab a drink or dinner the last couple months. 4 dates the last 2 months to be precised. I feel like every single one of them is been going great and In all of them we make out at the end and then we go our own ways. Pretty much because I try to be a gentleman and also give some mystery. The confusion to me now (since I’m new to dating, was in relationship for the last 4 years until a few months ago) is that I simply get ghosted or all of them tell me they’re constantly busy which makes me feel like they’re just making up excuses to tell me they’re not interested to me which is confusing because during the dates they’re all over me but then just disappear after.
Im not a bad looking guy but i just feel so confused to the current dating scene. Like before my last relationship I didn’t have any issues picking up women. Im starting to think that they prob wanted more than a kiss and since I leave them with a bit of mystery, trying to leave sex for the second date or later on, they lose interest and move onto the next thing?? Everything goes well during the date. We share experiences and our passions and everything seems great until I get ghosted 🙁
Im out of touch? Or am I just picking up super immature people?
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Maybe you’re not a good kisser. 🤷♂️ jkjk
It just depends on what kind of woman they are. hard to tell since I wasn’t there for the interaction.
What are your intentions with them? hook ups or potential relationship?
This is isn’t to say that the dating scene isn’t a war zone, but man, you’re ‘trying’ to be mysterious, you’re thinking about a million reasons ‘why’ they went wrong…chill out and act natural, you probably giving off vibes that you trying too hard or maybe its just 4 bad dates.
Trying to be a gentleman and give some mystery is incredibly likely to backfire. You’re most likely massively overthinking by doing that, and leaving little room to engage and be fun to hang around, because you’re _lying_. If you haven’t practiced it enough for it to be natural and effortless, it will not be genuine.
If you want to persist with the mysterious vibe, join some theater groups, they’ll teach you mystery. Otherwise, let it go and be natural. They still may not like you, but you’ll feel a lot more relaxed.
I also have a massive Dejavu on this post, I’ve seen this copypasta before.