I’ve known my boyfriend now for over a year, and we’ve always had a pretty great healthy sex life.
The past few months though, he’s been unable to cum during sex for some reason.
He’s perplexed also about it, otherwise we have a great relationship and super healthy/open communication sexually. I’ve managed to finish him off orally but otherwise it’s like he can’t cum during sex. Any advice? Any chance it has to do with me?
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It’s likely nothing to do with you, so don’t beat yourself up. A lot of things can contribute to this. Does he stay hard?
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1. Excessive Masturbation – This is usually associated with a porn addiction, but not always. If he masturbates frequently (several times a day) it can cause him to be less sensitive and could require more pressure to finish. This could be why PIV doesn’t get him off but oral does.
2. Stress – If he’s stressed, that can cause it too. It could be stress from work, family, friends, or even sexual anxiety. Check on his mental health. That plays a much bigger part in sex life than most people realize.
3. Medication – If he’s on any medication, this could cause an issue that desensitizes him.
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There are a handful of other things that it could be, these are just three common scenarios.
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