Do you or do you not check for a ring before hitting on a woman and why?

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1. I definitely check.

2. I just check that it’s my wife. If she’s got a ring on or not I figure it’s ok

3. I check… not trying to fook with someone elses’ happy!

4. I don’t check. I would just talk to a person and see if they seem interested. Rings now a days don’t even neccesarily mean monogamous.

5. I know a lot of unmarried girls who wear a ring on their ring finger so it doesn’t really mean anything to me. If I were single I would have to to ask.

6. Because many men don’t care. Single, not single, married, whatever… some men are going to take a chance regardless. Maybe you’re interested for real, maybe they can have a casual score, or maybe they’ll just get attention from you because many people like to flirt regardless of the outcome.

   Before I was married I would check, but I definitely know guys who wouldn’t or wouldn’t care either way even if they did.

7. I generally do, but only because I’m 40, and ~80% of all the women I want to flirt with are already married.

8. Don’t check? Yeah, maybe you can say that. Sometimes, it just slips your mind, especially when you’re younger or transitioning into the age where most people get married. You’re not really used to having to check in the first place. That said, it’s fairly obvious, and usually one of those things that people with either make noticeable, or your eye will catch it at some point.

9. I don’t really check anymore because wearing a ring in a lab is a safety hazard so no one does it, and I kind of forget they exist

10. It’s nowhere near a sure sign. She can wear a ring just because she likes it. She can not wear it while being married just because she doesn’t like it. But I’ll try and notice.

11. In my opinion you always should but depending on the situation and on how drunk I am I rarely even see the ring if it is there. It also doesn’t help that the bar is always so dark.

12. I don’t even know how to hit on women.

13. I don’t generally hit on people I don’t know, but if I take an internet in someone, I DO check for a ring.

    Some folks don’t wear them, some are partnered but not married, some wear bands in their ring fingers while single, others will let you smash in the bed they share with their spouse, while wearing the ring. Others are ethically nonmonogamous and will let you smash, provided you and the spouse get along well.

    All it tells me is whether or not they’re wearing a ring..but I still check.

14. I tend not to hit on woman that I do not already know to some degree. It’s not so much that i check if they are married, I just already know them well enough to know if they are in a relationship long before i would start hitting on them

15. I don’t check; some women wear fake rings so no one hits on them.

16. I would say it’s the same reason Women are more successful at finding partners in Ethical Non Monogamous and Poly relationships. Guys are far more open to to the idea of a partner that’s there for a mostly sex based relationship. Specially when you’re the other guy.

    On the other hand, women cheat only slightly less than men. And there’s an opinion in some quarters that you never cheat with a single person. They don’t have anything to lose and there’s often no consequences for them.

    All that being said, in my early 20s, yes I was looking for rings. Now days I’m not walking up to strangers. And guys should really limit sexual relationships with taken women to those in ENM or Poly relationships.

17. It’s kinda instinctive and instantaneous.

18. My wife has had guys literally stop on the side of the road and try and get her number while she was walking the dog while wearing her wedding ring. Guys don’t care.

19. I didn’t check because I was 27 and I wasn’t approaching girls that were with guys and also at that age it’s not that common. I think I only had a girl say “I’m married” and show me their ring maybe 3 times.

    Now if I was 35 then yeah I’d be looking for that.

20. Yes check. Anyone who says other wise is looking for trouble or wants to be a home wrecker! Let alone if there’s kids too! Don’t be that guy or girl. Don’t f up your life either. Just my 2 cents.

21. I’ve seen both types. I fall in the observant category where I would look (back when I was single, now happily married). I had a couple of friends that didn’t care. They were looking for a booty call and would do anything to get it. Absolute animals without higher brain function when they were in that mode.

22. Not just a ring, also looking for an impression left by a removed ring and or tan line.

23. I don’t hit/flirt, but a wedding ring is automatic off limits.

24. I used to wear my wedding ring for my husband. I realized he didn’t really care if I wore it. I hate jewelry it feels constricting so I never wear it anymore.

    Prior to not wearing it I was hit on quite a lot.

    I was getting hit on even more wearing the ring, but I’ll caveat that with I’m a fun person and somewhat flirty unintentionally I guess maybe I don’t know and it might look like I’d be willing to go for a shag so I don’t know if I get hit on more now because of my personality or the fact that I’m wearing a ring and it could seem like it’s a hit it and quit it kind of situation to the guy…since married.

    I no longer wear my ring and I’d say I still get hit on about equally as much as when I did or didn’t.

25. I don’t check and I don’t care. Some wear rings regardless of their relationship status, be a big girl and say if you are not interested, if you are married and you decide to cheat that is their own choice. I can only be responsible for my own choices. if they don’t tell me they are married, not my fault. The moment you become responsible for someone else’s choices, you are in trouble.

    Edit: to add if I know they are taken, I wont go there with a ten foot pole.

26. I always did. Though to be honest, I would never have something to do with a married woman who did/would reciprocate.

    And I’m just like your bf, I take guys hitting on my wife as a compliment.

27. I do not. But my demographic is usually a bit young for rings. Also, women often wear rings on their ring finger of the wrong hand and I honestly don’t know which hand is the wedding hand.

28. I’m married and haven’t flirted in a very long time, BUT when I was single, a ring on someone I was interested in wouldn’t steer me away. It WOULD prompt me to ask about it in my first few questions. A lot of women wear rings just because they like rings. I used to date a woman who wore an actual wedding ring because it was a beautiful ring *and* it belonged to her grandmother, whom she was very close with.

    I never took a ring as confirmation that a woman *was* married, just a sign that she *might* be married and that I needed to ask.

    And no, I did not continue to flirt if they said yes.

29. Yes, I do. I don’t want to waste the time of a faithful woman, and I don’t want to deal with an unfaithful woman. Either way, there’s no point in hitting on someone with a ring.

30. 26M. If I would try to hit on someone, I wouldn’t check. It’s just another thing I would need to be aware of and think about (is it a marriage ring or not). If she is married, shell just point to her ring, showing that she is married and then it’s totally fine. I can have a nice conversation with an attractive married woman without flirting. I wouldn’t feel awkward at all

31. I’m a woman but that’s the first thing I check. If I see a ring or am having a conversation with a man that uses “we, us, ours” I assume he’s off limits.

32. If I see an attractive woman her fingers aren’t in the list of first few things to look at.

33. Men do check, they become scum bags when they don’t care.