I found out a few years ago my wife had a MFM threesome in college with an ex boyfriend and his friend. She was open and honest about it, she was drunk, but enjoyed it, and the feeling of being desired by 2 men. After hearing about it, I was so turned on that I offered to have another if she enjoyed it, but was shut down pretty quickly. She said she felt like she wasn’t that person now, being a wife and mother, and had no interest.
Flash forward 3 years, and after having some fun convos at the beach this past week about spring breakers and past wild stories, I brought up her threesome experience again and how hot I thought it was. She then told me she shut me down on my offer years ago because she thinks I’ll want a FFM threesome in return, but she would have a threesome as long as it was with me and another guy. She just doesn’t want me with another woman.
Since this convo I havent pressed her on it much because I dont want to seem too eager, but she did give me a stipulation she would need to “Lose her baby weight” before talking any further. (We had a child this past year, and she says she would need to have her body confidence back to feel sexy and desirable).
What should I expect?
Any recommendations on finding a 3rd?
do’s and dont’s?
Thanks!
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I love your patience with her, and attentiveness to what her motivating forces are. Bouncing back after a baby is really hard for a woman, and takes a year or three.
While you wait for her to be ready, is she interested in role play / dirty talk / dildo in her mouth while you screw her?
I’m very remote from my experiences, but I think having some clear code phrases for “we need to wrap this up now” or “I’m having a good time” are important. Clear prenegotiation about unsexy topics like how infection prevention and contraception will be managed. Whether you want your third to stay the night, as sleeping is very intimate. Do you two prefer a third who is known to you and might bump into at the grocery? Or find and vet someone who lives a few hours away so that won’t be an issue?
How does she feel about you interacting directly with the other man – if her motivating force is being wanted by two, will she be jealous if you touch his dick? Do you want to touch his dick? Are you motivated by watching her be wanted? Is there sexy language around that which you can incorporate now?
I think it would be pretty hot and really cool to just go out at night, with it in mind hot maybe you two will meet someone that will end up being the third. You’d probably have good sex that night or while out even if you don’t meet anyone new…
Establish boundaries while you’re in the preliminary talks of it. You need to establish what you want out of this what you don’t want. I.e. will this be a 1 time thing, will this be a random person you find online, will communication be strictly between the men when it comes to hooking up, etc.
Establishing these boundaries helps the process keep the main relationship happy
Me and my GF also just dipped our toes into this lifestyle quite recently and had a good experience so far.
We have a similar arrangement as in I dont get (and I dont want) MFF threesomes.
All I can advice you is you are prepared for the sight of her fucking another man, you may find that hot now but then? Are you ready for that?
There will be moment in which she will focus on the other man and you will feel left out, are you ok with that? There is no unseeing those images. Its not for everybody.